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“The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled.”
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“The responses of traumatized children are often misinterpreted...Because new situations are inherently stressful, and because youth who have been through trauma often come from homes in which chaos and unpredictability appear "normal" to them, they may respond with fear to what is actually a calm and safe situation. Attempting to take control of what they believe is the inevitable return of chaos, they appear to " provoke" it in order to make things feel more comfortable and predictable. Thus, the "honeymoon" period in foster care will end as the child behaves defiantly and destructively in order to prompt familiar screaming and harsh discipline. Like everyone else, they feel more comfortable with what is "familiar". As one family therapist famously put it, we tend to prefer the "certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty".”
― The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook
― The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook
“Ideally, what should be said to every child, repeatedly, throughout his or her school life is something like this: 'You are in the process of being indoctrinated. We have not yet evolved a system of education that is not a system of indoctrination. We are sorry, but it is the best we can do. What you are being taught here is an amalgam of current prejudice and the choices of this particular culture. The slightest look at history will show how impermanent these must be. You are being taught by people who have been able to accommodate themselves to a regime of thought laid down by their predecessors. It is a self-perpetuating system. Those of you who are more robust and individual than others will be encouraged to leave and find ways of educating yourself — educating your own judgements. Those that stay must remember, always, and all the time, that they are being moulded and patterned to fit into the narrow and particular needs of this particular society.”
― The Golden Notebook
― The Golden Notebook
Auntie’s 2023 Year in Books
Take a look at Auntie’s Year in Books. The good, the bad, the long, the short—it’s all here.
224 books
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5 friends
283 books
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24 friends
945 books
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25 friends
473 books
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53 friends
430 books
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30 friends
363 books
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75 friends
110 books
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31 friends
187 books
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45 friends
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