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I'm Glad My Mom Died
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when a memoir fails to be introspective, nothing can really compensate for this shortfall. it is especially saddening when the topics in themselves are extremely interesting but the way they are handled simply is ... not. to go beyond a superficial analysis shouldn't be too much to ask for what is supposed to be an autobiography !!
on the other hand i do feel for Jennette of course, and her dealings with eating disorders that I relate to oh too well, but it is clear that she has a tendency to be self-enabling and especially when it came to her relationship with Steven. i think that a conversation should be had on the way that she treated him and especially how easily she disregarded his wishes when it came to their intimacy and was almost forceful with it. long story short, forcing someone into consenting isn't something one is supposed to do, no matter the reason why they refuse in the first place.
on the other hand i do feel for Jennette of course, and her dealings with eating disorders that I relate to oh too well, but it is clear that she has a tendency to be self-enabling and especially when it came to her relationship with Steven. i think that a conversation should be had on the way that she treated him and especially how easily she disregarded his wishes when it came to their intimacy and was almost forceful with it. long story short, forcing someone into consenting isn't something one is supposed to do, no matter the reason why they refuse in the first place.
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Feb 28, 2024 11:32AM
Damn!!! Lol ⭐️⭐️. Couldn’t relate huh.
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Ruthie wrote: "Damn!!! Lol ⭐️⭐️. Couldn’t relate huh."Not necessarily, on a personal level we share a lot of childhood experiences with abuse and the involvement of a parent in one's eating disorder, I just disagreed with some of her behaviors and the narrative voice that was quite lacking.
i hear youu
honestly i felt the same way. and unsure how healthy it really is for people to read a memoir that covers such detailed abuse without sufficient amounts of introspection or reflection
i think the only introspection that is lacking is the introspection coming from your review. the whole book is a reflection on her trauma, internal and external struggles, and the unhealthy relationships she has experienced in the past. throughout the book, McCurdy is learning to accept and process her trauma with her abusive relationship with her mother, and with any sort of mental/emotional processes that includes trauma, grief, hardships, etc, everyone is going to approach it a different way, but i don't think that because you disagreed with how she expressed her trauma makes her storytelling any less introspective. i believe that the introspection comes how she expresses how childhood trauma can easily be hidden from the public eye, or how easily within the world of adolescent stardom, abuse can quickly be normalized and deemed as necessary towards fame, causing her to grow into a young adult expressing certain behaviors that have been planted into her since a young age. yes, she did make mistakes and could have caused collateral damage, we see her grow and mature from those traits and behavior. i feel as though the lack of romanticism of trauma/addiction/mental disorders in her writing might have been confused as the "lack of narrative voice" that you have stated, whenever the only thing lacking in this book is the illusion of trauma being in a straight line from beginning to end, something to be envious of, or something that should be "interesting" to read about. her book wasn't something to read to hope for an entertaining story, but instead, a story that creates more awareness about trauma and healing
ccecilia wrote: "i think the only introspection that is lacking is the introspection coming from your review. the whole book is a reflection on her trauma, internal and external struggles, and the unhealthy relatio..."my disagreement with her behavior and my distaste for the lack of introspection are two completely different points that I made and one was not to be mixed with the other. Trauma can never be an excuse for any sort of mistake made by someone. It can be an explanation but NEVER an excuse. So as far as this point goes, it has to be stopped right there and it is baffling that so many people think that what you call "collateral damage" is something to be forgiven simply based on one's experiences with trauma. Refusing to follow your partner's vow of celibacy, no matter the reason behind it, is not something to be done, and no she did not "grow and mature" from that for the only thing that she does is talk about how insane that vow was and how she was relieved that it was only something temporary in Steven's mind, due to his recently diagnosed schizophrenia.
The lack of introspection lied in the lack of analysis. Telling your story is something, analyzing it in a matter that is in depth and not only superficial is something different. And no, it has nothing to do with romanticizing any sort of abuse or mental health issues, i would have found it even more superficial if it fell into that vice so i doubt that your assumption was made with any sort of basis to it.
I am glad that you found her book insightful, and yes it did have certain qualities to it, but it still can be criticized for the points that I brought up, and so can be the actress.
fiona wrote: "honestly i felt the same way. and unsure how healthy it really is for people to read a memoir that covers such detailed abuse without sufficient amounts of introspection or reflection"i do agree on that part, i believe it could be more triggering than actually useful if someone were to read it without having a proper understanding of the psychology behind their own trauma ...
