This was a fascinating read! The book helped me make sense of certain trends and stereotypes that are deeply entrenched in our society and that I neveThis was a fascinating read! The book helped me make sense of certain trends and stereotypes that are deeply entrenched in our society and that I never quite understood or wanted to accept. It also provided a perspective for how to break out of that mold, or what breaking out of that mold would have to look like in the first place.
It's probably not a book for sceptics. It's well-written, but it kind of assumes you are already interested in the topic and open to the perspective presented within. Most of it I agreed with, some of it I didn't.
My only gripe with the book is how central American society is to the book. Many times, parallels were drawn to other parts of the world, which is good - but the book itself never leaves an American POV, and goes to great lengths to compare American worldviews to the rest of the world, rather than viewing the situation from many different but equal perspectives. It ultimately didn't matter too much to me, but it felt like a wasted opportunity....more
An all-around excellent work with a strong focus on human communication. While it's main agency lies with educating people around communication with kAn all-around excellent work with a strong focus on human communication. While it's main agency lies with educating people around communication with kink and/or polyamorous interests, I found several of the points, chapters and exercises helpful for my own monogamous relationship.
The continuous use of LGBTQIA+-friendly language and perspectives is also a big plus.
You might also enjoy this book if you want to get better at communicating your needs and wants to a partner (within or outside of sexual encounters), understand their needs and wants, and take a more structured approach to communication with your partner(s) in general.
This book might not be the right fit for you if you adhere to a strictly monogamous lifestyle and/or are not interested in kink play (because there might be better books to cover your bases, and this book might touch on a variety of topics that hold little relevance to you). However, there will still be plenty of relevant ideas, concepts and exercises for you in this book - so you might want to give it a try anyway.
This book is definitely not the right fit for you if talking or reading about sex or sexuality makes you uncomfortable, or you are struggling with sexuality yourself. In that case, maybe "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski would be a helpful and liberating book to pick up instead....more
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