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The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
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This book is based on the premise that everyone has a "love language". Things others say or do that make one feel "loved",they are follows:
-words of affirmation.
-recieving gifts.
-acts of service.
-physical touch.
-quality time.
Personally I want you to tell me how great I am (words of affirmation) while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me (receiving gifts), make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out (acts of service), then come back in and read quietly next to me (quality time) before I ride you like the wild stallion that you are (physical touch) so where does that leave me? Which love language am I? This book was not helpful (as indicated by the shelf it's on).
-words of affirmation.
-recieving gifts.
-acts of service.
-physical touch.
-quality time.
Personally I want you to tell me how great I am (words of affirmation) while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me (receiving gifts), make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out (acts of service), then come back in and read quietly next to me (quality time) before I ride you like the wild stallion that you are (physical touch) so where does that leave me? Which love language am I? This book was not helpful (as indicated by the shelf it's on).
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June 23, 2007
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January 31, 2008
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January 31, 2008
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read-on-the-way-to-divorce
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May 05, 2011 12:51PM
You sound like a polyglot of love.
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polyglot of ill-conceived relationships actually.
I'm sure love featured in there for a while.I can't seem to find the quote from Oscar Wilde or George Bernard Shaw to the effect that the only difference between a life long love and a temporary obsession, is that an obsession tends to last a little longer.
Or I might be dreaming it up.
Plus, the future is yet to be conceived!
i am very similar... no one has just one love language. there is always a dominant one though. i'm kind of a princess and i, like you, enjoy basking in all languages of love. Although, I noticed I enjoy quality time the most. But again, everyone enjoys all languages, there is simply a dominant one sometimes.
Below is the passage from "Dorian Gray" in which the quote I was thinking of appears:"You are glad you have met me, Mr. Gray," said Lord Henry, looking at him.
"Yes, I am glad now. I wonder shall I always be glad?"
"Always! That is a dreadful word. It makes me shudder when I hear it. Women are so fond of using it. They spoil every romance by trying to make it last for ever. It is a meaningless word, too. The only difference between a caprice and a lifelong passion is that the caprice lasts a little longer."
As they entered the studio, Dorian Gray put his hand upon Lord Henry's arm. "In that case, let our friendship be a caprice," he murmured, flushing at his own boldness, then stepped up on the platform and resumed his pose. (2.19-20)
Am considering reading the book as have had friends recommend it to me....thanks for your thoughts Malbadeen..I won't rush now!
There's an online assessment at the books website you can take. Lot easier than trying to figure out on your own.
actually Vibha, most of us do. well, one main one. but we all need a bit from each.and geez, Mal... you live up to that syllable for sure. Someone pee on your oatmeal?
The pee in my oatmeal is due to milk allergies, thank you very much.
Not every book is for everybody. I found this book very helpful and it has helped me understand my husband, and visa versa.
This was an excellent book. Yes, you can have more than one love language. But more importantly, it gives you tools to better love and serve others. I found this a very enlighting book.
Inasmuch as I understand that every book is not for everyone, I think it's a bit harsh to say it's for the "relationally retarded".
In hind sight I do regret my word choice. I've changed it.
I took the test on the website as someone suggested, and I don't think it worked because all the questions were like, "I wish my husband was more like this." And I'm pretty damned happy with my husband and don't want him to change, so I don't think the answers were accurate.
Aww, good for you and Mr. Nemo!Maybe there us an underlying assumption that only people who are at least in some aspect dissatisfied with their relationship would buy a book of this sort?
Probably. Or maybe it's aimed at single people who want to understand themselves better and what they need from a mate.The test had a singles and a married option.
af learnt it am getting there
Doesn't sound like you even finished the book
All relationships can use improving and it's not about what my spouse/boyfriend can do for me, it's about how can I improve. Start by learning his love language so his tank is filled--and then maybe, he'll see your effort and reciprocate. Being demanding will never get you there. And I think people don't pick up this book until their relationship is in trouble which is a shame.
I'm reading this book and my relationship is great... I can't complain about a thing. I'm reading this book not only because everyone has told me to but because I want to make sure before I marry my man I know his love language so I can always keep him happy. I'm not going to lie I was kind of skeptical about reading it but I can't put it down now. Now my man even wants to read it. :)
I have a friend who gives this book as a wedding present. It has worked for him for over 30 years. It takes desire and effort not just reading.
Thanks, that's helpful.
Physical touch is not completely about sex. You should read the whole thing...
The book simply divides communication between a couple into five languages, to make their lives easier and understandable. Great book, must read for couples.
Looking at everything through a negative lens makes so things never work in your favor and those around you won't find you likeable.we all shape how others relate to us by how we relate to them.
did you try the test at the end ? you may be someone that needs them 5. :)
I tried marrying a different person. So far, so good!
This comment section was an interesting read. 3.5/5 stars.
Everyone has a primary language and a secondary language, but everyone appreciates all manner of receiving love. I find it impossible to believe you like all 5 equally. Improve your reading comprehension.
He even says in the book that every language is important for a solid relationship because we all need a little of each. There is a primary language that speaks to you on a deeper level and that you probably value over the others but we all need all five. He says that.
Ha! I love your shelf. I read "the care and feeding of husbands" on the way to divorce too.
Sometimes, all you get from reading a book like this is a just a new perspective, an insight.Don't read books like this trying to find reasons why your relationship failed or is failing. Read as an investment in your person, read for insight.
So? You won’t have a problem getting your love tank filled! Why so small hearted giving only two stars? Having problems getting any affection and trying to get negative attention this way? (hell, negative attention is better than none, right?). I’m an atheist btw.
Enjoy your divorce! Small minded people get small minded lives. This is what you can do. Or do I now have to use the plural form (divorces)?
