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In the tradition of Madeline Miller and Claire North, Lilith is the story of the first woman, who was expelled from Paradise for disobedience. In this retelling of the Hebrew myth [NM1] that justified and explained woman's subjection to man, Lilith will have her revenge - however long it takes.
In the Garden of Eden, at the beginning of time, an outrageous lie is born: that women are inferior.

Lilith and Adam are equal and happy in the Garden of Eden. Until Adam decides Lilith should submit to his will and lie beneath him. She refuses - and is banished forever from Paradise.

Demonized and sidelined, Lilith watches in fury as God creates Eve, the woman who accepts her submission. But Lilith has a secret: she has already tasted the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. Endowed with Wisdom, she knows why Asherah - God's wife and equal, the Queen of Heaven - is missing. Lilith has a plan: she will rescue Eve, find Asherah, restore balance to the world and regain her rightful place in Paradise.

Lilith's quest for justice drives her throughout history, from the ziggurats of Ancient Sumer to the court of Israel's Queen Jezebel, and to the side of a radical preacher in Roman Judea. In the modern age, as she observes the catastrophic consequences of a world built on inequality, Lilith finally understands what must be done to correct the wrong done to women - and all humankind - at the beginning of time.

Inspired by ancient myths and suppressed scriptures, Lilith is a thought-provoking and ambitious novel with an evocative literary voice and a triumphantly engaging heroine.

336 pages, Paperback

First published October 17, 2023

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391 reviews517 followers
July 7, 2024
‘That men would have them believe disobedience was Eve’s vice, when it was her greatest virtue.’

Just finished reading "Lilith" by Nikki Marmery, and wow, what a ride! This book reimagines the story of Lilith, Adam’s first wife, and it’s nothing short of captivating. Marmery breathes life into a character often sidelined in traditional narratives, turning Lilith into a fierce, independent woman who demands to be heard.

The writing is engaging and vivid, pulling you right into the ancient world. Marmery’s attention to detail and rich descriptions make everything feel so real. I loved how she wove in themes of autonomy, gender roles, and power, all while keeping the story compelling and relatable.

Lilith’s journey is both heart-wrenching and inspiring, filled with moments of triumph and despair that keep you hooked. It’s a refreshing take on a classic tale, and I couldn’t put it down. If you’re into historical fiction with a strong, nuanced protagonist, Lilith is definitely worth a read. Marmery has done an excellent job of bringing this enigmatic figure to the forefront, and it’s a story that will stay with you long after the last page.

I Highly Recommend

4.5
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Author 2 books198 followers
July 13, 2023
My Lilith is not bioessentialist, nor is she so stupid she'd zone out for millennia at a time or accept 'just because' as an answer to, oh, literally anything.

It is 2023, can we stop defining womanhood as the ability to give birth and ~create~ please, for the love of all the gods.

Some really good ideas were executed very badly, and a great deal more made no sense at all. The ending in particular doesn't work without ignoring the whole first half of the book.

Full review to come, but wow, major fail.

13th July: review

HIGHLIGHTS
~scary angels are dickhead jocks
~God is a brat
~the heroine women have waited 6000 years for is an idiot

Where the fuck do I start.

I can see what Marmery tried to do here, and why some other readers are going to feel so EmpoweredTM by this book, but honestly? It’s a trainwreck. The internal logic is whatever Marmery wants it to be at any given moment, rather than something that actually, you know, makes sense and holds the story together. Lilith breaks its own rules constantly, culminating in the absolutely ridiculous ending, which only works if you let none of your braincells anywhere near it. And the entire book is one loud, preachy lecture on the kind of bioessentialist Woman PowerTM nonsense I thought we were done with in the 80s.

Lilith is the First Woman, created at the same time as Adam in the garden of Eden. All is well until Adam starts becoming obsessed with power and control, inventing money and weaponry and The Patriarchy, basically. Just in case we didn’t get the message that he’s a terrible person, he also rapes her – but it’s fine, because Lilith shrugs it off like it was nothing, insulted but otherwise unaffected. The reader belatedly discovers that Yahweh is not the One God at all, because He has a wife and partner, Asherah; it is Asherah who created Adam and Lilith (and presumably everything else in Eden), because, and I quote,

Naming is to man what birthing is to woman.


Yahweh only named things, you see, which is meaningless, because

naming holds no power.


Asherah has bestowed upon Lilith the Secret, which makes Lilith capital-w Wise. This Wisdom is more or less summed up as ‘man and woman are equal, and have no dominion over the earth, because they are a part of it.’ But Asherah is missing, and the book really gets moving when Lilith abandons Eden to go look for Her. Although she doesn’t find Asherah, she does discover that she and Adam are far from the only humans in the world; later, she discovers that Yahweh and Asherah are far from the only gods to exist, too.

(This is important.)

Yahweh, here, is characterised as the ultimate Old White Cis Dude, insisting that He is the only one with power, the only god, that everything male is good and everything female is, at best, disgusting. He is petulant, spoiled, and bullying, a figure who would be pathetic if He didn’t have the power to enforce His horrible views on the world. He is a petty child next to the infinite wisdom and grace of Asherah.

I find this incredibly lazy writing. There is absolutely no nuance here, and what’s weirder and worse is that this is very clearly an ex-Christian take on God. I sympathise, because yeah, this is pretty much the impression of God I was left with too after I got far the fuck away from my Catholic upbringing – but Lilith isn’t a Christian figure. Lilith comes from Jewish folklore, and I’m not at all saying there is no dodgy patriarchal bs in Judaism – but there is an enormous difference between the Christian and Jewish views and approaches to God. I feel like the least you could do, in telling Lilith’s story, is respect the culture and faith she comes from.

If that doesn’t bother you, nevermind, there are plenty more things this book does badly. The writing itself, for example, can’t decide what it wants to be; it swings wildly from fancily archaic to dissonantly modern (Adam describes the Wisdom as ‘mumbo-jumbo’), with quick dips into the bizarrely juvenile (Lilith calls the angel Semangelof ‘the scariest of the three [angels]’ – ‘scariest’, as if she’s a child rather than a grown adult). Later, disappointed that she can’t find Asherah, Lilith literally zones out for a thousand years sitting in one spot, until another character comes along to info-dump everything that’s happened while she wasn’t paying attention. She immediately takes an enemy’s word for it that her long-lost companion could have returned to her any time he wanted, and gets mad about it, despite having every reason not to trust the person who told her this. While on the hunt for a woman with a specific birthmark, centuries later, it takes her sixteen years – of sleeping beside her, bathing her, dressing her, etc – to notice that the woman she’s hung her hopes on does not have this birthmark. And when she does find her prophet, she accepts that this woman ‘has to die’ despite no one providing any reason why this death has to happen. It’s ‘just because’.

‘The heroine women have waited 6000 years for’? Hi, you made her an idiot.

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1,969 reviews2,817 followers
May 19, 2023


’For women everywhere. Be your own gods. Your Mother commands it.’

’Of Adam’s first wife, Lilith, it is told
(The witch he loved before the gift of Eve,)
That, ere the snake’s, her sweet tongue could
deceive, And her enchanted hair was the first gold.
And still she sits, young while the earth is old,
And, subtly of herself contemplative,
Draws men to watch the bright web she can weave,
Till heart and body and life are in its hold.
--Dante Gabriel Rosetti

’At first, I loved him. How beautiful he was in those days.
There he stood, legs planted wide in the rich soil of our Paradise. Hands on hips, his muscled arms firm and knotted as a young fig tree. His hair fell shining, raven-feathered, to his shoulders. His dark eyes beckoned.’


This story was inspired by ‘ancient myths and suppressed scriptures.’ It is a beautifully written story of how women came to be suppressed, controlled by men. Lilith, not Eve, is the first woman, although Lilith is banished when she makes it clear that she believes that she is equal to, and not less-than Adam. Adam, of course, disagrees and dismisses any ideas she has because, well, she is a woman, and thus less than him. She couldn’t possibly be capable of ’knowing’ anything of value to him, of having a worthy idea.

This includes several biblical characters Noah, Na'amah - Noah’s wife, Jezebel, Mary Magdalene, and Norea, and more, it also covers ‘events’ that most will recognize, including the building of the Ark, and the story that follows. But this is less a story of the origin of man, or of religion, than it is a telling of the beginning of the subjugation of women.

While this is a story based on ’tales as old as time’, and - like the bible - it is filled with multiple characters - Jezebel, Mary Magdalene, Noah, his wife Na'amah, Norea, and others whose stories are shared over time, it never felt disjointed. I loved how the story is shared, there is a balance that seems to show how much, and how little, things have changed, but offers hope for our collective future.



Pub Date: 17 Oct 2023

Many thanks for the ARC provided by Alcove Press
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920 reviews137 followers
March 21, 2023
as poetic as “lilith” is, it is both too modern and too archaic. the way that lilith speaks is wrought with dry humor and wit, but it is so modern. i did not feel rooted in place in the garden of eden nor any other mortal land we visited. i did not feel particularly moved. her portrayal of god (as well as every other character) was from a very christian point of view; very big booming voice / sky daddy. from a jewish perspective, this novel doesn’t make much sense. i wanted to see more of lilith’s emotional state, more of her power.

physicality is not described in any way, but i did. enjoy the way marmery portrays the evils that men do. adam is not glorified but shown as a man capable of rape. noah is not a hero. she does not shy away from the realities of male brutality.

thank you to netgalley and the publisher for an arc in exchange for an honest review.
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171 reviews11 followers
September 4, 2023
As soon as Yahweh said "and if the woman told you to jumpeth off a cliff, would you?" I knew I had to put it down.

I was already pretty sure I was going to dnf this but that was the final straw. Only made it 10% of the way into the ARC. I love retellings, especially ones that take a "misunderstood" female character from literature/folklore/mythology/etc and expand upon her story -- Circe and Kaikeyi were absolutely riveting to me. but Lilith had none of the intrigue, character development, and beautiful writing that made those stories great. Lilith conveniently grows wings because of Asherah's blessing. Except that Asherah is missing and Lilith has to find her so how is she being blessed by her??? Eve is to blame for her subservience and also she's not as pretty as Lilith -- don't forget that. The fact that Adam invents patriarchy, capitalism, and rape casually and Lilith is just like Bummer. WHAT. Also, I don't know, this felt very modernly anti-Christianity in a way that is weird to do with a figure of Jewish and Mesopotamian mythologies. It just felt out of place.

This read like a baby's first feminism take on Lilith and also was so grossly equating motherhood, birth, and menstruation with womanhood. Not only is that transphobic but it's so reductive and demonstrates a woeful misunderstanding of what should be the fundamental priorities of feminism.

Disappointing.

Thanks to Netgalley and Alcove Press for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
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428 reviews92 followers
October 23, 2023
3 "meh" stars - I’ve always been intrigued in the mythos of Lilith, biblical Adam's purported & greatly vilified "first wife”. And while I enjoyed the concept, I did have a few issues with this book and found it rather hard to get through, particularly the whole section with Jezebel, which was just too over-the-top. Moreover, it took me way too long to tackle for it's page count, I just couldn’t sustain a lot of interest in it. That said, the book's beginning with the Garden of Eden & the Ark were exactly what I wanted to read. I would recommend for anyone who thinks they'd be interested in this mythology and has the patience for it.
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710 reviews3,887 followers
September 6, 2024
Loved this! ❤️

"I wonder: will a woman's message ever be heard? Or will it always be too weak, too angry, too impassioned? Too irrelevant for all mankind (by which they mean: for men)?"

Did you know that before Eve, Adam had a wife named Lilith who’s remembered as a demoness? In Lilith we get a feminist take on her origin story.

Lilith and Adam are equals in the garden until Adam demands that Lilith submit to him. When Lilith refuses, she’s banished from Paradise. And because she’s a woman who refused to conform to male authority and traditional gender roles, she’s demonized.

Lilith has a secret. Before she was forced out of Paradise, she tasted the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. That’s why she knows about God’s wife Asherah, the Queen of Heaven, and the fact that she’s missing.

Lilith is determined to restore balance between men and women by enlightening Adam's new (subservient) wife Eve, finding the missing Queen of Heaven, and regaining her rightful place in Paradise. And because tasting the forbidden fruit made Lilith immortal, her quest for justice spans centuries that see her crossing paths with figures like Noah and Mary Magdalene.

Lilith is a story steeped in themes of independence, bodily autonomy, and breaking free from patriarchal constraints. And it's written with gorgeous prose reminiscent of Hamnet by Maggie O’Farrell. Highly recommend, especially the audiobook!
March 14, 2024
{ 4.75 Stars } ~ { Biblical Fiction, Historical, Retelling }

¡Y’ALL!
The only reason I didn’t rate this book 5 stars (which, literal shame on me, I give y’all full permission to bully me) is because I know Nikki Marmery isn’t gonna pay for the therapy bills that I will undoubtedly rack up (✌️😃) once I’ve fully processed everything this book dumped into my brain and my poor/broken/sad/crumpled heart 😭

A visual representation of how I progressed through this novel: 🙂😐😦😟😫😭😵💀

Either way, this review is going to be a little less longer than my traditional reviews because I literally want to spoil NOTHING, since y’all need to start reading this, like, respectfully, right now 👀 …but I also just need to vent 😭 So, nonetheless…

!¡!SPOILERS AHEAD!¡!

Trigger Warnings

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Synopsis
Please don’t read the Goodreads synopsis 😵‍💫

I kinda hate how the word choices leave the impression that this is a “revenge” story, when it’s really not. (It’s really more about justice or, in all honesty, how to achieve basic human empathy, compassion, and perception across the species and sexes)

If anything, preface the plot as: “What are the truths surrounding Lilith’s story, considering she’s the one actually telling it?” 😊
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Everything I Need to Get Off My Chest 🫠
First and foremost, my respectable audience, y’all need to understand how MAD this book made me. And mad is an understatement:

I was LIVID
I was IRATE
I was FUMING with anger at all the (capital S) “Sh*t” Lillith went through in this story

In no way is this a criticism of Marmery’s writing style or ability. (I genuinely think anger and depression are the two most felt emotions anyone would experience throughout this plot 😭); if anything, this is a warning ⚠️: “Nikki Marmey did such a phenomenal job at emotionally connecting us with Lilith that our newly found primal instinct is to viciously maul each and every one of her enemies” 😃👍

There’s so much I also wanna say about each of the characters, each of the chapter endings, and that BOOK ENDING… 🥺 I still literally refuse to spoil anything significant 😅

So, what I will primarily say is that I wholly believe that this book will have a remarkable impact on your life if you’re:
- Someone who’s grown up in Western religious environments and institutions
- Someone who’s grown up in religious environments that have had their historical texts and teachings altered over time, through translation, and to benefit a certain class of person (soooo, this might be… maybe… most… religious institutions 👀)
- A Human Being (come on, y’all! Most of us have been exposed to religion and live under a patriarchy; everyone needs to read this 😭)

As my last Hail Mary (religious pun… intended? 😋): Whether you’re someone who’s been hurt by religion, someone who’s apathetic toward religion, or someone who upholds religion, there’s so much to learn from this book. Even if you already know it 🙏
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Closing Thoughts
I feel like this was less of a review, and more of me just ranting and expressing the pain I felt and begging y’all to suffer with me 😅 But, honestly, there are only three other people in my life that I can talk with about this book (and I’ve already talked with them about it), so message me if y’all finish this one because I need more convos 🥹

Let’s see what I’ll review next. Cause I think I’m gonna need to talk about something that’s the emotional equivalent of being smothered by a kennel of puppies 🐶

Here’s to spreading the Mother’s truth✌️
~~~
Book Vibes ~~~> Song Vibes
“The Devil is Human” by Aurora
“The Woman I Am” by Aurora
“Persophone in the Garden” by Aidoneus
“Eve” by Precious Pepa
“the fruits” by Paris Paloma

↺ ᴿᴱᴾᴱᴬᵀ ‖ ᴾᴬᵁˢᴱ ≫ ᴺᴱˣᵀ ˢᴼᴺᴳ
1:35 ───ㅇ───── 3:47 | ᴠᴏʟᴜᴍᴇ : ▮▮▮▮▮▮▯▯▯

。・゚゚・“What is there at the end? /
A better world. A better story.” •°. *࿐


(No, but seriously, even if I rated this 4.75 stars… it’s 5 stars. Don’t listen to that earlier version of me. He’s delusional 😌)
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1,994 reviews440 followers
June 21, 2023
6/21 I’m not enjoying myself and I’m stopping myself right here. When. Feel like the reading of a book is a chore, just no. It’s not for me

6/17 yeah I’m still getting this slight farcical vibe. It’s not really blatant I don’t think. But it’s enough that it makes me feel like I’m sitting crookedly or something. It had a great little beginning except I would have loved more of lillith’s antics. And Adam so fits the ALLMAN THEORY I hold. Sorry I just do I’m extremely jaded for various nefarious reasons. And just as I became quite comfortable with one particular character he’s gone. That better be rectified soon because that dynamic was leading me forward. I don’t think L is a strongly enough developed force to ride out the rest of this book with just occasional visiting occurrences.

Interesting, almost lighthearted take on the myth? Would that be the right term? I do question what the book is stating to be the great sin. In school we were always told it was free will. Outside of the classroom we talked about it being fornication. This book said something about creating death?
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1,010 reviews8 followers
March 31, 2023
I am so excited for others to read this book. You might have heard of the stories of Lilith, but I guarantee you’ve never heard one like this. As someone who deconstructed from Christianity, I have been waiting, yearning, for retellings of vilified Biblical women. And I am so thrilled to have read the Grandmother of them all (yes, smart people debate if Lilith is canon, but as far as I’m concerned, if not she, then her essence, is).

The only slight stumble was the chapters with Jezebel. I found myself not really caring for either Jezebel or Lilith during this point in the story. Jezebel felt less than fleshed out and Lilith was just along for the ride. However, I really enjoyed the Ark portion of the narrative, especially with how all the myths and legends surrounding Lilith came to be and who was behind them.

The best part was, hands down, Lilith and Maryam. I kept wondering if Maryam (better known to us as Mary…guess which one) was end game each time Lilith would be searching for her prophet, The inclusion of Thunder, Perfect Mind was inspired. The parallel of Lilith and Maryam having their own road to Damascus moment was especially poignant portion of the narrative.

Recommended to those, like me, never saw themselves in the male deities we were instructed to worship and always knew that there had to be more…And trusted ourselves to keep asking questions.

Many thanks to the publisher for providing a free copy for me to review via NetGalley.
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157 reviews18 followers
August 30, 2023
"Lilith" is the literary equivalent of the Barbie movie for all women, but especially for those healing from religious trauma.

Every page was beautifully written. I laughed, I cried, I raged alongside Lilith and the other women of the bible as their stories were told from a new lens. From the lens of a woman who understands them, not a man who is dominant over them.

This book healed parts of me that I didn't even know were there, let alone broken. I feel more whole after reading this book than I ever felt in my years of reading the bible.
Reading "Her" capitalized for a goddess was a glorious experience throughout the book.

I can't recommend this book enough!!
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999 reviews166 followers
October 6, 2023
“Why did I stay, you rightly ask, when I had such little joy…”

That’s a quote taken out of context from the book, but I found it relatable as I tried to get through Lilith.

Let me tell you why I stayed, though.

I could not write this off as a DNF. Once I confidently understood how I felt about the story, I did not feel I could actually abandon it. I wanted to express my already developed thoughts on it fairly, and I felt I could only do that by seeing it through.

Lilith frustrated me with its heavy handedness. The author doesn’t simply spoon feed her message to readers. She shoves it down their throats. The irony here is that this is a tale that aims to dismantle the biblical origins of the abuse and misogyny that women experience. Now, isn’t one of the very things we have had pounded into us for centuries the idea that we cannot think for ourselves? But this author does not trust us to do so, either. She does not believe we’ll understand her intent if she doesn’t make it completely transparent. Marmery used Lilith’s voice to report on the misogyny, instead of simply illustrating it in the story.

It’s not that it’s a terrible message. In fact, I’ve given this a second star because I do, at least, applaud that intent. I also liked Marmery’s attempt to convey that men are not inherently evil, although she tells us they are not born this way, instead of allowing it to sit as an illustrated point. I feel this could have easily been an essay, weighing the author’s beliefs against the Bible, instead of a flimsy retelling.

I am supportive of anything that illuminates and attacks spiritual abuse, including the well documented misogynistic practices within the Bible. But inserting misogyny into biblical stories where it had previously been absent, especially with the countless overt examples that were not included, did not seem logical to me. That’s not to say that she did not draw from some examples accurately. However, because of certain contortions, I don’t feel she grappled with the toxicity of these biblical stories in a truly meaningful way.

Furthermore, despite this being Lilith’s story (and one she is telling herself), her presence did not feel particularly strong. I didn’t find her to be a rich character or a fundamental symbol of feminism. She came across as a spectator, and one who experienced little to no emotion, even when encountering traumatic and tragic experiences.

I also want to address the actual writing style. It is often overly descriptive, although I believe the author was aiming for a lyrical pitch. There were some lovely phrases, but they kept getting louder when they should have quickly been reduced to a quiet hum. Additionally, the language used vacillated between archaic and modern, which I often found quite irritating. I didn’t expect perfection, but it should have leaned harder into the former.

I must add that due to the slow pacing, I did find this difficult to get through. If the author was aiming to emulate the Bible there, she succeeded.

I wish I could have found more of value within Lilith, but the novel struck me as a way for the author to superficially communicate how she feels about the Bible instead of an intriguing fictional exploration of how the text depicts misogyny and how we, as human beings, have interpreted it and harmfully implemented it into our social construct.

I am immensely grateful to Libro.fm, Highbridge Audio, and Nikki Marmery for my copy. All opinions are my own.


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42 reviews21 followers
November 18, 2023
1.5 stars? 1 star? Not sure.

thanks nikki marmery for writing the most transphobic and antisemitic interpretation/midrash of lilith! And in 2023 of all times, too

I just had to dnf this book when it got to slandering the Hebrews for finding a place in Jerusalem and suggesting that they were colonizers rather than talking about the fact that everyone everywhere during that time did that shit.

This is NOT a Jewish story. Rather, this seems to be an ex-Christian who is upset at how Christianity has treated her and the brainwashing the church did. There is an existence of Heaven and Hell. Also, rather than using the name Adonai, there is the constant use of the ineffable name. This used even by people such as Noah. Do not use you religious trauma from Christianity to shit on Jewish history.

ALSO ALSO ALSO, womanhood is viewed as the ability to give birth in fucking 2023???? As a nonbinary person who has many trans friends, WHAT THE FUCK? It's seeming very TERF-ish and it's tiring. like there’s such a connection between womanhood and how women can create bc they have babies??? also it’s weird too bc like why do women have to be good mothers? i want my lilith to be a man hater bc i too am a man hater.

Anyway, if your feminism is shitting on the Jewish religion and is all TERFy, I don't want to be part of it and fuck you!!!!!
May 13, 2023
This books is exceptional! Lilith is a must read for all you Madeline Miller loving… smash the patriarchy type of readers.

“For Women everywhere. Be your own gods. Your mother commands it.”

Although this book may have started off a bit slower for me by the middle of the book I was completely enraptured. This is a retelling on the Hebrew myth of Lilith, the first woman who was exiled from the garden for refusing to lie beneath Adam. This book’s touches on how religion was used to manipulate women into becoming subservient to men instead of equals and how Asherah was essentially glossed over. I really appreciate the feminine narrative and how that it reframes something that is so uniquely female, like creation, into something that was shifted into man being made in “his” image.
The book follows Lilith from her exile from the garden into present day; sharing stories of Noah, Jezebel, and Mary Magdalene without ever feeling disjointed.
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334 reviews44 followers
Shelved as 'unfinished-or-abandoned'
January 14, 2024
I liked the sound (and pretty cover) of this book better than the reality... and I stopped reading at around 50%

the novel seemed to mix quite alot of mythologies and stories and histories up... and was pretty inaccurate in places/exercised ALOT of artistic licence...

and I found Lilith more of an observer, rather than protagonist, than I expected... and to lack some agency, even within her own story 🤔🙃

bits of it were fun 🙂
bits of it were rather questionable 🤔🙃
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632 reviews62 followers
September 28, 2023
Lilith
by Nikki Marmery
Fiction Religion Mythology
NetGalley ARC
Publication Date: October 10, 2023
Alcove Press
Ages: 18+

A feminist retelling of Lilith, Adam's first wife.

This book is compared with the novel by Madeline Miller, and I agree with that comparison. I read the first 16% and then started to skim because it was boring, just like Miller's book.

While it was an interesting concept; Lilith is really a good person, and God actually has a female partner, but God and Adam are men and they have to control and what they can't control they abuse/lie about, and the things in the 'bible' weren't all true, women were intended to be equals but men... etc, etc...

But the story had no depth, as if written for middle/high school textbooks, with just enough detail so it could possibly keep kids' attention for more than five minutes.

I was expecting more details, more life to this character because she was supposed to be the first woman, powerful, but she and everyone else were all flat. Maybe if the author didn't rely so heavily on biblical references, they could have created a much more admirable character that women could believe in and start a real change in the controlling male dominated religions.

1 Star
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52 reviews17 followers
August 25, 2023
3⭐️

I owe Thanks to NetGalley, Alcove Press and Nikki Marmery for a Digital ARC in return for my honest review.

In Lilith by Nikki Marmery we follow Lilith from the beginning. It starts in the garden of eden, where Lilith and Adam are created by their gods Asherah and Yahweh (4004BC). From the beginning Lilith is set to an almost impossible mission to spread her wisdom and avenge Asherah. We read of her journey of this mission.

The writing is poetic. There are more scriptures in this than I had wished to read (knowing the context of the book, I did expect a few). I really couldn’t stand any man that was brought into the book, except for Samael.

Tragedy, disappointment, fury, and sometimes love and short lived happiness is all covered in the story of Lilith.
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28 reviews3 followers
May 25, 2023
This book haunts me. If you’re currently going through your “finding myself” phase as a woman or trying to understand your place with the patriarchy, it’s one that will haunt you as well.
As someone who grew up in Christianity, it was freeing to look into the mythology of another religion. Through the lens of the first woman, I was delighted to see why Christianity would want to erase Lilith. A woman who is head strong, self-assured, and intelligent. Exactly the woman I was not taught to be. At one with her decisions and her sexuality, I enjoyed her character even when she questioned herself and her actions.
I read this book as an ARC (advanced reading copy) from NetGalley, but this will definitely be one that I go and purchase to put on my shelf.
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9 reviews
March 14, 2024
Oh boy. (some spoilers)

Lilith was a lot less thought provoking and much more painfully redundant than I thought it would be. Its themes and messaging are lacking any kind of nuance or intrigue. I found myself bored, confused, and frustrated much more than I found myself excited to continue this story.

Lilith's character in itself is seemingly contradictory to the books central themes. Her agency is strange and sometimes completely absent. Her traits as a character are surface level and muted. I couldn't tell you much about Lilith as a person other than her goal in the story. The fact that she's immortal is handled poorly and makes the pacing of the book clunky. Either the story is slogging on, or I'm left completely deflated when I get to the next section where Lilith leaves whatever mortals she was accompanied by, and meanders for a couple hundred years again.

In its writing and its plot this story is fairly sterile. There's no edge to it, no soft embrace to it, it just kind of happens and I'm left with an absence of emotion or investment of any kind. Its too easily predictable, the world is too black and white. Although I recognize that the conditions for women especially in the ancient world were terrible, again I struggle with its lack of nuance. If a man is good in this book, he is more feminine, if a Woman is bad in this book, she is more like a man. It's tiring, and boring. Mamery's writing is also just missing something. That x factor, a distinct voice that makes it interesting to read. She repeats many of the same descriptions. A beautiful woman's hair is either 'coiled' or it 'tumbles' to her waist. By the 100th time I had to read the word coiled I almost threw the book across the room. The biblical writing she tries to imitate also falls completely flat. It's a ambitious and I have respect for that, but it is numbingly mediocre at best, and laughably terrible at worst.

Throughout this book there are many instances of laughably bad moments. The three angels that serve "God", that pursue Lilith throughout the story are straight out of a fucking Looney Tunes animation. If that was intentional or not, I don't know which one is worse. When a literal god basically says "if eve jumped off a bridge would you do it to?" I questioned why I even continued reading. When Lilith, the supposed first mother, feminist symbol in this book did nothing when a man beat his pregnant wife to death, and then actively went against trying to save another girl from suffering the same fate, I could've screamed. The authors obsession with describing women as holy because they birth life eventually starts to seem almost reductive, coming around the other end of the horseshoe.

This book never challenged me, never surprised me, never transported me somewhere, or gave me a new special feeling with its atmosphere, it just happened. A broken record relaying a message that anyone who picked up this book would have agreed with before starting it. The writer wrote a coherent story, that for what its worth, is not offensively bad. More disappointing and boring than anything.

I do not recommend Lilith. If you're looking for something empowering, or feminist, look elsewhere.

p.s How the fuck does Lilith's immortality work? She doesn't age and she doesn't die, yet fears for her safety on multiple occasions. If someone cut her head off of would she die? Why does Asmodai die if he's the son of two immortal beings? Can Samael die? He's like an eternal being that existed before the gods. One of the angels try to kill him but can a mortal do that? If so, Lilith after what, 3000 years? Never once was attacked, robbed, or had an attempt on her life? In this horribly dangerous world for women? The more I think about this story the more my head hurts.
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78 reviews2 followers
May 8, 2023
I know I am not the target audience for this book, which is why I chose to read this Advanced Read Copy. It's always good to read books that challenge your beliefs. I am pretty confirmed in my Judeo-Christian beliefs and this book takes a whole new look at how patriarchal roles have existed and formed since the literal beginning of creation. While it reads as a work of fiction, the end notes of this book reveal that a lot of research went into this book.

God had a wife, Asherah, whom the Book of Kings suggests was worshiped alongside Yahweh in his temple in Israel. Asherah's connection to Yahweh is found in an 8th-century B.C. inscription on pottery found in the Sinai desert at a site called Kuntillet Ajrud. It is from this union that both Adam and Lilith were created. However, according to the myth, Yahweh wanted to be God alone and so divorced his wife. Lilith mirrored her actions by wanting to be equal to her husband Adam and thus was cast from the Garden of Eden.

Lilith strives throughout the entire book to restore the goddess and bring back the dignity of women under the rule of men. Since Lilith is immortal, this struggle lasts millennia from Eve, Noah, and Jezebel, to Mary Magdalene.

Although this book is well-written and engaging, I really struggled with this content. There are portions of the book at the beginning that almost seem anti-semitic and misandrist. While I know the ultimate point of the book is to demonstrate that women have been and always will be equal to men, there are portions of this book that seem to argue that men are lesser because women are divine through their life-giving abilities. Traditional Jewish and Christian figures such as Adam, Noah, Jesus, and Peter are seen as weak or evil.

Ultimately this book ended up sounding like a radical feminist tirade, but perhaps that is the point of the entire book. Nikki Marmery makes it extremely clear that when women preach or go against the grain they are seen as radicals, whores, or demons. My negative gut reaction could only be emphasizing the point she is making all along.

While my religious beliefs stay the same, this book is great food for thought! I am glad that I took the time to read this and grateful to Nikki Marmery for taking the time to write this.
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January 12, 2024
Wow! I’m not sure how to rate this one, I think I’m still thinking the plot through. This is very clever and it’s on line with a story with a twist ie. “Wicked “. The point of view no one ever looks at, Wow! It’s controversial but if you are the type who likes to look at a viewpoint standing in someone else’s shoes, this is a zinger!
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
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1,332 reviews425 followers
November 9, 2023
Loved it!

One of the best retellings out there! In my top 5 if not top 3. This is a very strong feminist retelling so it may not be for everyone. I found it beautiful and empowering. The story was great and held my attention. I'd sit to read just a little and end up reading for hours. I would definitely read more by this author.
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1,033 reviews190 followers
May 24, 2024
I want to give this book 10 stars.

The author recounts the story of Lilith, who was allegedly the first wife of Adam. She was banished from the Garden of Eden when she refused to submit to Adam both physically and emotionally. She is immortal and she tells her story over numerous millennia. Much of the book is her quest to find Ashera who was the wife of G-d.

Over the course of the book, we meet Adam, who was arrogant and boorish; Noah, a sorry drunk of a man; Samael, a fallen angel who loves Lilith; Jezebel, who has been unjustly vilified over the ages, and Mary Magdalene, who is another woman who has been besmirched and denigrated by the followers of Jesus.

Throughout the book, Lilith (and the author) take on the patriarchal nature of religions, especially Christianity. This book has a decidedly feminist and woman centered view of religion. The men in the book do not come off well, as they shouldn’t. Lilith espouses a loving mother of a female god, not a jealous, vindictive male god.

Throughout the book men seek to control women, demean them, make them “less than” and certainly don’t regard them as equals. Sadly, we are seeing the same thing in our country as the religious right and the Christian Nationalists seek to take hard won rights away from women.

If you are a religious person who believes that everything you have been taught about G-d, Jesus and the teachings of your church is true, then you may not like this book at all, for it it will challenge your beliefs. For me, this book was a revelation, enlightening and a fresh way of view the religious myths that we have known. The author skewers some common perceptions. For example: why was it a sin for woman (and man) to eat from the Tree of Knowledge? Why is gaining knowledge sinful? What was G-d afraid of?
Women are deemed unclean by men when they bleed, but that blood is part of what offers life.

The book points out very clearly that our religious doctrines have been formulated and written by men, and discounts half the world’s population, yet we are supporting and following these doctrines blindly.

I won’t give away the ending, but it is so reassuring and affirming.


As good as the novel is, you must read the historical notes at the end. They as enlightening as the novel.

Good quotes:

“In the time to come, Eve would be reviled. Her disobedience, so it was claimed, the root of all Sin - the origin of Death itself. What power this one woman had! What an achievement to invent Death against the wishes of an ever-loving god! So, Eve’s sin would justify the abuse of women thereafter. As she succumbed to temptation, so would her daughters. As she led man astray, so would all women who followed. Henceforth all women would be punished for the sake of Eve. All must be ruled and restrained, kept close by their lords and masters. For females are the devils gateway.”

“To me, her one active disobedience was her saving grace. Not sin, but Wisdom and consciousness were her gifts to mankind. Knowledge of death, not death itself. But she threw it all away. That is why I reviled her.”

“Gods are made by belief and undone by disbelief.”

“ I told them of their ancestors, naked and unsullied, in the Garden of Eden. How Ashera had chosen women to receive the gift of Wisdom. That their foremother Eve brought reason into the world, not sin. That they must use their hard-won Wisdom to question, to improve an advance; not accept and endure. That men would have them believe disobedience was Eve’s vice, when it was her greatest virtue.”

“Women bring life into the world. To denigrate women is to degrade life itself. There must be equality, not domination. Harmony, not hierarchy. Compassion, not violence. Women must be cherished as we cherish this world it sustains us.”

“As a consequence, men were once again afforded all power, and none more so than those successors of Kephas (Peter), the rock on which the church was built: the papacy, which inherited unimaginable earthly power for 2000 years to follow! A tyrannous, judging power that required a tyrannous, judging god to uphold it.”

“Those inheritresses of Eve’s supposed sin responsible for all the evils of the world. Barred women for millennia from power and influence, demoted them as helpmeets, burned them as witches, exploited and exhausted them as breeding mares. Their bodies denounced is sinful, in need of binding, restraining, covering and mutilating to make them right. Their minds miscast as weak and polluting, open to evil, for which they must be silenced, denied leadership and voice.”

“Such a convenient religion, that affords all power to a heavenly Father, whose only desires accord with the earthly men who worship him.”

“Their message is the same: honor women, for they bring and sustain life. In searching, women find their own worth; cast off their shackles, reclaim their bodies, assert their right to power.”

“My fictional Maryam is a prophet in her own right, bringing a message of harmony and love for this physical world from a female deity. Equal in teaching, and in the movement she created with Yeshua, she is a female half of a whole that more truly represents humanity than a religion comprising a Father-God, a son, and a sexless ghost (who gets higher billing than any female). Of course, as a woman daring to assume authority, Maryam is denounced as a whore, just as Pope Gregory I pronounced the real Mary Magdalene a prostitute in 591 CE; the time-honored method used to diminish or malign women.”

“This conflict between Mary and Peter reflects the battle at the core of my novel: between a worldview of equality and harmony between the sexes - a desirable state coined as “gylany”by Riane Eisler -and the opposing urge of male supremacists to dominate women and brand them is inferior.”


An absolute recommend!
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43 reviews47 followers
June 30, 2024
Thank you to Netgalley and Alcove Press for the digital galley in exchange for my honest review.

Stunning, enlightening. Everything I never knew I wanted to know.

Lilith is the first woman, destined to be mother of all. For her, knowledge and wisdom are gifts bestowed on her from the Great Mother. For those who would have her quiet, lovely, subservient, these are the things they wish to take from her. Her destiny appears to come to a swift end when she refuses to act as Adam’s serf and give him dominion over her. She is cast from the Garden of Eden by a new and vengeful God.

What most people don’t know is that by the time the Bible was written, any female incarnation of God had been intentionally removed. After all, men wrote these religious texts and it was in their interest to do so. Creation is a uniquely female talent, but instead of attributing that to a female God, the story goes that man is made in His image. How were men supposed to convince themselves and others that women were property without this propaganda? If you think about it for even a minute, the concept of the Creator being male seems sketchier and sketchier.

The novel takes you through millennia with Lilith as she tries to spread the word that only she knows to be true. The religion that so many flock to is fraudulent. Their God, a usurper.

This was a stunning and riveting story, and one that I will never forget. It deserves a place alongside Circe (with just one more edit).

If I had one complaint, I would say it moves too fast. At least from the first page, until the time where Lilith boards the Ark.

The best parts of Madeline Miller’s Circe is that she allows you to languish along with Circe. It’s not slow, but it gives the impression that you are living out immortality with Circe. The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue does this as well. By the end of Lilith, you do feel that sensation, but the beginning feels like an entirely different novel. If they were two different books the middle-end is five stars, the beginning is two.

With Lilith, you barely know her before she has already left Adam. Only twenty pages in, she has left the garden, seeked out Asherah, been given the gift of wings, seen the world, and returned to find that Adam has created Eve. I would have loved if the novel had began with the birth of Adam and Lilith, if they had grown together as children in the garden with Asherah as their mother, which would have given the reader the opportunity to understand their dynamic and personalities. Adam’s betrayal would have been made impactful because of the anticipation. I didn’t have time to anticipate.

Adam could use some work. While this is inherent and necessary to his character, the characterization still needs work. Adam saying “no way” when Eve tells him about the Tree of Knowledge is a bit too modern. I prefer where he speaks in commandments, as if he is trying to mimic God. However, I don’t mind Lilith’s use of more modern language being that she is narrating this story from present day, and describing her early life to the reader.

Asherah, as prevalent as she is, seems glossed over somehow, and this is also because of the fast pace. She is arguably the most important character in the novel, but there is nothing to explain her dynamic with her husband Yahweh or her banishment other than misogyny = bad

There is also not a lot of characterization for Samael. I didn’t know him enough to miss him. His involvement in the story feels unfinished to me.

I’m so glad I pushed through because the middle-end is perfect.

By the middle portion of the novel where Lilith meets Norea, the pace is much better, the characters more developed, and the reader is able to form connections.

I really enjoy being able to recognize stories I was told as a child about Noah, Cain, Jezebel, Magdalene, and see these stories told with such a clear voice in a way that finally makes sense to me, much unlike the version I read in the Bible. The feminist lens that Lilith reveals to you puts these stories in perspective. It shows you the political intrigue behind the scenes. I may have stayed in Catholic school if they taught us about Asherah.

Lilith breaks down all of the questionable faults in these stories. Is Yahweh all powerful or is he simply an ambitious local God? Was woman really created from Adam’s rib? Did the whole world actually flood when two animals of every kind were herded onto the ark? Ask me how I felt when I realized that Jezebel, a name which is permanently associated with betrayal and promiscuity, was actually the victim of a man’s propaganda. Was the birth of Christ actually divine?

The more I read, the more I enjoyed the novel. The middle is like reading an entirely different book from the beginning. An issue that could be solved with a less hurried pace and info dumping.

That entire portion of the novel is jarring, hurried, and unsatisfying. If it was the choice of the publisher to make this a shorter book than it needed to be, I’m begging you. ADD SOME CHAPTERS.

Once the story fully enraptured me, this novel very quickly became a favourite. The time that Lilith spends with Jezebel and Magdalene are my favourite chapters. It stunned me to see how easily the wool was pulled over my eyes when I first learned these stories. How easily the masses accept propaganda as truth.

I’ve said it before. I’ll never forget her.

On October 17th, don’t walk. Run to your local bookstore. I can’t wait to put her on the shelf.
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345 reviews633 followers
July 13, 2023
I love this genre of feminist retellings explaining a more detailed back story for historical figures everyone thinks they know, but really it's just one side of the story.

I just wish this story felt more interactive for the reader. We're getting a third person, birds eye view of Lilith's story but I felt disconnected from her. I'd have rather been shown and not told this story and there was a lot of explanations throughout instead of actually experiencing the journey with the character
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265 reviews25 followers
October 13, 2023
This cover is so stunning, and the story inside is just as amazing.

To take on a retelling of the Hebrew creation myth is bold and daring.

This feminist take on how it all began was just the book I needed this fall.
Lilith was well executed and lyrically written. This book thoughtfully and languidly meanders over a large span of time, but it never felt boring. If you loved Circe and Addie LaRue, this would be right up your alley.

Thank you SO much to Alcove Press for the ARC!
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767 reviews79 followers
August 4, 2024
“God had commanded: Be fruitful and multiply! It costs men nothing and women everything.”

I think the best way to describe this book's theme is "Female rage", personally, I knew very little of Lilith besides what pop culture has shown us, like in Sabrina she is the mother of demons which I believe is pretty badass but historically, or as historical as the bible and the whole mythology can be, she was originally the first wife of Adam.

In this rendition of Lilith, we can see how by her worshiping Asherah, Queen of Heaven, Lilith reaches enlightenment and seeks to share her wisdom with the world.

Lilith encounters different challenges from where she must prevail like her banishing from Eden, Noah and the arc, Jezebel, etc. but always, she is looking for the promised prophet that will help bring back the worship of the mother of everyone, the goddess Ashera back to the lives of women everywhere.

It's sad to see how historically, the treatment of women declines. There's a moment when Lilith meets Mary of Magdalene and she recites a part of the poem The Thunder, Perfect Mind which is an ode to Sophia, the goddess in the Gnostic creation story that is the female version of god and now completely forgotten.

So to summarize, I really enjoyed this book even if it made me angry to see how women are reduced to vessels instead of fully valued individuals.

“For women everywhere. Be your own gods. Your Mother commands it.”
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9 reviews
July 23, 2024
This book sucks so hard man. I really tried bc I’m not a quitter but yikes. It’s giving Bible fanfiction like the anachronisms don’t really add anything and it’s trying really hard. And the protagonist my god for girlboss feminism she literally doesn’t even try to girl boss, she’s barely girl employee-ing at this point. She’s girl unpaid interning. Like why should I see her as this awe inspiring goddess mother figure if she literally CANT DO ANYTHING. Watching girls get raped and murdered? Yeah. Not helping anyone? Yeah. Not killing any of the said rapists and murderers? Yeah. She gives boy mom too like does nothing to help that poor girl. Literally the whole Noah’s ark chapter was an exercise in futility and frustration. Like it made me actually hate our protagonist. Yeah 0/10 I just hated this a lot. And the women are also…not really painted well either??? Like why does this book try to gaslight me into thinking it cares about women? Weirdly an unsympathetic look.

If you wanna watch a protagonist literally do nothing help no one then this might be for you. There’s also….like no real goal? Like is it to return this goddess? Or to find a prophet? Couldn’t tell you we kinda just hop around and watch women suffer for no reason? Under comically stupid and evil men like girl if they’re stupid just kill them why are you here why are you so powerless? You had a grown ass lion following you around and didn’t think to…kill a man before he went and married a 14 year old? Yeah okay girl. She like didn’t even speak up for said 14 year old like why are you so fucking passive. Even with the whole Adam part…just kill him? Like not enough men killed in this novel.

Anyways I’m taking this book to a store that lets you exchange books for pickles because it is worth more to me as pickles than as a work of literature.
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80 reviews5 followers
August 28, 2023
This book is a little hard to review and rate. The message and meaning of this book was an absolute 5 star for me. I found myself saying out loud to the book numerous times, "YES!! All of this!!". I did really enjoy the writing but did feel like there were a couple of moments where the conversation was more modern day linguistically that would pull me out of the story. I think since this story of Lilith spans thousands of years, it made the story, for me, feel long at times and also sped up at times. However, I'm so happy I read this book and will look for other works by this author. I loved the character of Lilith and her mission but didn't connect to certain aspects of the story.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for allowing me to read this book!
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62 reviews1 follower
January 9, 2024
This book was written for the deconstructed Christianity girlies and pretty much no one else. 💅 At times the language was super goofy and disrespectful, and the book itself was full of pretty hot takes so it's going to ruffle feathers but that's also sort of the point. A lot of it clicked with me, and the story itself was a very interesting one. The pacing was fairly slow but the overall message is a poetic and powerful one. Honestly I'll probably never forget it.
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