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Don't Kiss Them Good-bye
Her visions have helped solve crimes; her instincts have helped find missing people; she can predict future events and sense your thoughts.
These are some of the extraordinary gifts that define the remarkable Allison DuBois, the real-life medium, wife, and mother whose life is the inspiration for the hit NBC television series Medium.
When she was six years old, Allison's deceased great-grandfather came to her with a message for her mother: "I am okay, I am still with you. Tell your mom there's no more pain." Allison shared his comforting words with her mother and thus began a lifetime of creating connections between loved ones and those they have lost. The purpose of her gifts became clearer when Allison worked as an intern in the homicide bureau of the district attorney's office and found that she visualized the crime as she handled the evidence. Allison now works as a
profiler on criminal investigations.
In this stunning book, Allison shares fascinating stories of her encounters with people who have passed and her adventures as a profiler for various law enforcement organizations. With wit and compassion, Allison shows us what it is like to live with these special gifts and talents and also tells about her struggle to live a normal life as a devoted wife and mother. She shows how
learning to accept her own gifts has helped her accept the unique gifts of others and how her compelling desire to relieve the pain of others has helped define her own life, a life committed to the search for ultimate truth.
If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, this book will help you see that there is a living energy beyond death.
These are some of the extraordinary gifts that define the remarkable Allison DuBois, the real-life medium, wife, and mother whose life is the inspiration for the hit NBC television series Medium.
When she was six years old, Allison's deceased great-grandfather came to her with a message for her mother: "I am okay, I am still with you. Tell your mom there's no more pain." Allison shared his comforting words with her mother and thus began a lifetime of creating connections between loved ones and those they have lost. The purpose of her gifts became clearer when Allison worked as an intern in the homicide bureau of the district attorney's office and found that she visualized the crime as she handled the evidence. Allison now works as a
profiler on criminal investigations.
In this stunning book, Allison shares fascinating stories of her encounters with people who have passed and her adventures as a profiler for various law enforcement organizations. With wit and compassion, Allison shows us what it is like to live with these special gifts and talents and also tells about her struggle to live a normal life as a devoted wife and mother. She shows how
learning to accept her own gifts has helped her accept the unique gifts of others and how her compelling desire to relieve the pain of others has helped define her own life, a life committed to the search for ultimate truth.
If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, this book will help you see that there is a living energy beyond death.
193 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2004
About the author
Allison DuBois
13 books110 followersAllison Dubois's unique story, the inspiration for the hit NBC TV series Medium, started during her senior year at Arizona State University while she was interning at the D.A.'s office. Soon after, researchers at the University of Arizona validated her ability through a series of tests. Allison continues to support research as a medium, as a member of the Veritas Research Program Mediums Committee, and as a member of the Forever Family Foundation's Medium Advisory Board. In her short career, All
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February 16, 2010
This book, as cheesy as it may sound, changed my life and my feelings about life and death and beyond. I don't usually read these sort of books (or for that matter, non-fiction at all really) but I love the show "Medium", which is based on Ms. DuBois and her experiences as a medium. She talks about how the dead never leave us, and how we need to listen to the voices around us of those trying to help guide us, that they are indeed with us. Coming from a family with a firm belief in ghosts, hauntings, and a sixth sense, much of what she said made sense of my experiences both growing up and as an adult. It is an infinitely comforting feeling to know that those who have gone before are casting a watchful eye. I would recommend to any open minded person. While you may not have experienced anything like this, or believe in it, it puts forth some very interesting ideas.
January 30, 2021
Nu aveam această carte în plan. Am dat peste ea întâmplător, când îmi umpleam coșul cu alte cărți. Mi-a sărit în ochi numele autorului și, apoi ,titlul cărții.Acum mulți ani, am urmărit serialul "Medium"; știam că Allison Dubois există în realitate și că a fost sursa de inspirație pentru film. Un medium care ajuta, prin "citire" la prinderea rău-făcătorilor, dar și la alinarea celor care au pierdut pe cineva drag. Da, vedea morți.
"Cei de lângă noi nu mor niciodată" prezintă experiența ei de medium, de om care se luptă cu prejudecăți și care nu se oprește din a-și urma calea.
Nu cred neapărat în medium, dar nici nu resping ideea. Cred că am tendința mai mult să cred, decât să nu cred, totuși.Nu am avut nicio așteptare de la cartea asta, dar mi-a plăcut.M-a surprins plăcut lista de mulțumiri (foarte simpatică, pe alocuri: "Lui Chris Conti: să conduci cu atenție! Îți mulțumesc pentru că mă iei așa cum sunt!"), dar și capitolul scris de soțul ei, Joe, inginer aerospațial.
Cum se împacă știința cu aceste aspecte paranormale? Aflați citind cartea.
Citate
(am speranța că) "alții vor învăța să se ierte pentru greșelile făcute în viață, deoarece atunci când murim luăm cu noi și regretele."
"Criteriile pe care le folosesc pentru a stabili capacitățile mediumnice ale unui copil sunt următoarele:
1. Copilul dumneavoastră a spus vreodată că o cameră este aglomerată, chiar dacă, fizic, nu este plină de oameni sau că se simte agitat în anumite locuri? (...)
2. Copilul dumneavoastră evită să fie înconjurat de mulți oameni pentru că experiența ar fi pentru el covârșitoare? (...)
3. Copilul dumneavoastră vă spune că vede persoane care apar dintr-odată? Vă spune că "vede lucruri"? (...)
4. Reușește copilul dumneavoastră să descrie în detaliu ceea ce vede? Ar trebui să poată menționa trăsături fizice, obiecte care au fost importante pentru persoana în cauză sau poate chiar un nume. Informațiile trebuie să îi apară cu claritate copilului, fără să fie nevoie să se gândească prea mult la ele. (...)
5. Copilul dumneavoastră descrie întâmplări care se desfășoară ulterior? Știe unde se află ceva fără a primi indiciile care se dau în mod obișnuit în astfel de situații?"
"nimeni nu-și poate depăși propriile limite fără să riște."
"Cred că oamenii își pot crea propriul iad pe care, după moarte, îl iau cu ei dacă se hotărăsc să nu renunțe la trăsăturile lor spirituale întunecate."
"Cei de lângă noi nu mor niciodată" prezintă experiența ei de medium, de om care se luptă cu prejudecăți și care nu se oprește din a-și urma calea.
Nu cred neapărat în medium, dar nici nu resping ideea. Cred că am tendința mai mult să cred, decât să nu cred, totuși.Nu am avut nicio așteptare de la cartea asta, dar mi-a plăcut.M-a surprins plăcut lista de mulțumiri (foarte simpatică, pe alocuri: "Lui Chris Conti: să conduci cu atenție! Îți mulțumesc pentru că mă iei așa cum sunt!"), dar și capitolul scris de soțul ei, Joe, inginer aerospațial.
Cum se împacă știința cu aceste aspecte paranormale? Aflați citind cartea.
Citate
(am speranța că) "alții vor învăța să se ierte pentru greșelile făcute în viață, deoarece atunci când murim luăm cu noi și regretele."
"Criteriile pe care le folosesc pentru a stabili capacitățile mediumnice ale unui copil sunt următoarele:
1. Copilul dumneavoastră a spus vreodată că o cameră este aglomerată, chiar dacă, fizic, nu este plină de oameni sau că se simte agitat în anumite locuri? (...)
2. Copilul dumneavoastră evită să fie înconjurat de mulți oameni pentru că experiența ar fi pentru el covârșitoare? (...)
3. Copilul dumneavoastră vă spune că vede persoane care apar dintr-odată? Vă spune că "vede lucruri"? (...)
4. Reușește copilul dumneavoastră să descrie în detaliu ceea ce vede? Ar trebui să poată menționa trăsături fizice, obiecte care au fost importante pentru persoana în cauză sau poate chiar un nume. Informațiile trebuie să îi apară cu claritate copilului, fără să fie nevoie să se gândească prea mult la ele. (...)
5. Copilul dumneavoastră descrie întâmplări care se desfășoară ulterior? Știe unde se află ceva fără a primi indiciile care se dau în mod obișnuit în astfel de situații?"
"nimeni nu-și poate depăși propriile limite fără să riște."
"Cred că oamenii își pot crea propriul iad pe care, după moarte, îl iau cu ei dacă se hotărăsc să nu renunțe la trăsăturile lor spirituale întunecate."
May 9, 2007
I took the advice of a friend and gave up on this book. I really like the show, I like psychics, and I really wanted to like this book. The author (whose life the show Medium is based on) doesn't flesh out her stories and sentences seem to be no longer than seven words max. This means it's no fun to read- I made it about 1/3 through.
It feels more like an early draft or that sort of thing, though I believe that Allison Dubois is geniune and compassionate and caring and we'd probably have fun over tea, I don't think I am learning anything new here or even feeling more connected to her powers or life or anything like.
It's too bad.
It feels more like an early draft or that sort of thing, though I believe that Allison Dubois is geniune and compassionate and caring and we'd probably have fun over tea, I don't think I am learning anything new here or even feeling more connected to her powers or life or anything like.
It's too bad.
January 24, 2008
Interesting to learn about how she learned and honed her skill as a medium. She is an amazing person who is full of love. Great stories about the living/dead with whom she has had contact. Also helped me with some grieving in my own life for someone I love who recently passed.
June 30, 2012
This is such terrible writing that I can't make myself finish it. It is choppy and disorganized, with moralizing and self promotion on every page. Too bad: it could have been a very interesting story, and I'm sure it would have been in the hands of a professional writer.
June 7, 2012
I find the topic of the dead communicating with the living comforting. After all, of those who have endured the loss of a loved one, who couldn't find this topic comforting?
I read DuBois' "We Are Their Heaven" first, and greatly prefer it to "Don't Kiss Them Good-bye". I desperately wanted to like this book, but alas, I didn't because of how it slaughtered an otherwise compelling topic. This book was written so poorly that it fell far below the average reader's intelligence level. Rule #1 as a writer is to know your audience. Based on the writing level of this book, DuBois must presume that her audience has an intelligence level of a third grader...grossly under-estimating reality.
"Don't Kiss Them Good-bye" read like an elementary, and somewhat desperate attempt of either self-promotion or ego-mania. DuBois' command of the language in this book is embarrassing, as few of her sentences seem to last longer than 7-10 words. DuBois alludes to her previous experience in studying law, however I question this claim now, because I'd assume that anyone studying the law annals would learn a thing or two about how to write a compound sentence. This book was painful to read because of the non-existent rhythm caused by an excess of simple sentences. Topics were covered in such a static and choppy way that I found it impossible to be absorbed by any idea presented. Because the book was so poorly written, DuBois made me work far too hard as a reader (in attempting to piece together her thoughts), to concentrate on and absorb in parallel the true message of this book.
Similarly, the flow in "Don't Kiss Them Good-bye" was also elusive, which lead me to assume that the author didn't work from an outline. Had she written an outline and studied it for the flow (among other things), this book would never have resulted in what it is: an unorganized collection of anecdotes written in simple sentences.
For as much as the author lectures throughout this book on the value mediums serve, I should think she'd respect the crafts of other professions by not falsely assuming that because one has a voice, she is also a writer. Had a professional writer been involved with this book, I believe the subject matter would have been presented in an alluring and captivating way.
Despite my dislike of this book (I only finished it because it was so short), I really embrace the idea of the dead speaking to the living. Sadly, the topic could have been better addressed if only the author had a better command of the language.
I read DuBois' "We Are Their Heaven" first, and greatly prefer it to "Don't Kiss Them Good-bye". I desperately wanted to like this book, but alas, I didn't because of how it slaughtered an otherwise compelling topic. This book was written so poorly that it fell far below the average reader's intelligence level. Rule #1 as a writer is to know your audience. Based on the writing level of this book, DuBois must presume that her audience has an intelligence level of a third grader...grossly under-estimating reality.
"Don't Kiss Them Good-bye" read like an elementary, and somewhat desperate attempt of either self-promotion or ego-mania. DuBois' command of the language in this book is embarrassing, as few of her sentences seem to last longer than 7-10 words. DuBois alludes to her previous experience in studying law, however I question this claim now, because I'd assume that anyone studying the law annals would learn a thing or two about how to write a compound sentence. This book was painful to read because of the non-existent rhythm caused by an excess of simple sentences. Topics were covered in such a static and choppy way that I found it impossible to be absorbed by any idea presented. Because the book was so poorly written, DuBois made me work far too hard as a reader (in attempting to piece together her thoughts), to concentrate on and absorb in parallel the true message of this book.
Similarly, the flow in "Don't Kiss Them Good-bye" was also elusive, which lead me to assume that the author didn't work from an outline. Had she written an outline and studied it for the flow (among other things), this book would never have resulted in what it is: an unorganized collection of anecdotes written in simple sentences.
For as much as the author lectures throughout this book on the value mediums serve, I should think she'd respect the crafts of other professions by not falsely assuming that because one has a voice, she is also a writer. Had a professional writer been involved with this book, I believe the subject matter would have been presented in an alluring and captivating way.
Despite my dislike of this book (I only finished it because it was so short), I really embrace the idea of the dead speaking to the living. Sadly, the topic could have been better addressed if only the author had a better command of the language.
June 29, 2009
Since I enjoyed the television show "Medium" based on Allison DuBois, I was interested in reading her book. In "Don't Kiss Them Good-bye," Ms. DuBois writes about her first memories of life on the other side. I enjoyed her stories of the many "sitters" (as she refers to them) that DuBois has read for. "Medium" has used her name as well as the names or her husband and three girls for the show's characters, so I enjoyed the true stories about them.
Ms.DuBois addresses skeptics as well as others claiming to be physic mediums. I truly believe our loved ones do come around to protect us and check on us. I find comfort in knowing that we are still connected with them even though they are not among the living. I believe DuBois is one of the truly gifted physic mediums.
Ms.DuBois addresses skeptics as well as others claiming to be physic mediums. I truly believe our loved ones do come around to protect us and check on us. I find comfort in knowing that we are still connected with them even though they are not among the living. I believe DuBois is one of the truly gifted physic mediums.
April 25, 2011
I really enjoyed this book and wish I could have a reading with Allison. What a gifted young woman - she is exceptional.
Back Cover Blurb:
Her visions have helped solve crimes; her instincts have helped find missing people; she can predict future events and sense your thoughts. These are some of the extraordinary gifts that define the remarkable Allison DuBois, the real-life medium, wife and mother whose life is the inspiration for the TV show Medium.
If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, this book will help you see that there is a living energy beyond death.
Back Cover Blurb:
Her visions have helped solve crimes; her instincts have helped find missing people; she can predict future events and sense your thoughts. These are some of the extraordinary gifts that define the remarkable Allison DuBois, the real-life medium, wife and mother whose life is the inspiration for the TV show Medium.
If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, this book will help you see that there is a living energy beyond death.
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September 29, 2021This was a fascinating book. I think that the author comes across (no pun about her being a medium intended) as a thoroughly nice person with the very best of intentions. She seems to have a very unique gift which she uses for the benefit of others. There are some who might say that she just has hunches that are coincidences, but how many coincidences does it take for a person to be recognised as truly having a special gift. Thoroughly enjoyed the book.
August 20, 2018
I thought there'd be way more emphasis on her involvement with criminal cases. I kept getting the feeling that the author was tooting her own horn a lot.
March 21, 2017
Ive always been fascinated by mediums and people with psychic gifts and Mrs DuBois writes about her gift in such a beautiful way.
Coming up the first anniversary of my sister’s passing, this book brought me comfort.
The following two parts of Mrs DuBois’ writing really spoke to me:
‘Our loved ones who cross over still go through life with us. They act as added energy when you need it.’
‘…so many people out there beat themselves up over the death of a loved one. They think that had they just taken their mom to the doctor, had they just known sooner that something was wrong, they could have prevented the passing of those they love.’
I think what I loved about Don't Kiss Them Good-bye is the sitter stories, the stories of people who have sought Mrs DuBois’ help through a reading.
This book also talks about how the Amber Alert was set up in Arizona with Mrs DuBois’ consultation.
Coming up the first anniversary of my sister’s passing, this book brought me comfort.
The following two parts of Mrs DuBois’ writing really spoke to me:
‘Our loved ones who cross over still go through life with us. They act as added energy when you need it.’
‘…so many people out there beat themselves up over the death of a loved one. They think that had they just taken their mom to the doctor, had they just known sooner that something was wrong, they could have prevented the passing of those they love.’
I think what I loved about Don't Kiss Them Good-bye is the sitter stories, the stories of people who have sought Mrs DuBois’ help through a reading.
This book also talks about how the Amber Alert was set up in Arizona with Mrs DuBois’ consultation.
May 16, 2017
I listened to this on audiobook and I really enjoyed it. There were times when the stories and chapters seemed disjointed but I put it down to the fact that I was listening to it while also doing chores and probably missing some parts.
Interestingly enough, this book seemed like a sign for me. It started off with Allison DuBois talking about her father's death and her feelings about him which made me tear up because my own father passed a few months ago. There were also many parts of the book which seemed coincidental to what I was doing at the time; there was once when I was doing something for work and wrote down a couple of sentences and some thoughts to be expanded on later, and then picked up the audiobook to listen to again and heard those exact thoughts, using some of the exact words and examples, being said in a later chapter!
There are some things that I don't agree on with DuBois, but in general I really like the book and believe there's a reason I came across it.
Interestingly enough, this book seemed like a sign for me. It started off with Allison DuBois talking about her father's death and her feelings about him which made me tear up because my own father passed a few months ago. There were also many parts of the book which seemed coincidental to what I was doing at the time; there was once when I was doing something for work and wrote down a couple of sentences and some thoughts to be expanded on later, and then picked up the audiobook to listen to again and heard those exact thoughts, using some of the exact words and examples, being said in a later chapter!
There are some things that I don't agree on with DuBois, but in general I really like the book and believe there's a reason I came across it.
January 18, 2022
I love the NBC show Medium; Allison DuBois is such a tough, gentle, and fair character. When I found out that the show is actually based on a real-life medium, I went crazy and bought both of her books, as well as the books she recommends from her personal website. She writes in her own voice: simple, clear, and honest.
August 23, 2015
I give it 3 stars for the crappy editing and not elaborating on anything lol. Her personality that came out in the book came across as having a very 'sheltered' view on world events.
But I enjoyed reading it and although I already know real mediums exist it's nice to read about someone who without a doubt has the gift.
Oh and I watched the show a few times :)
But I enjoyed reading it and although I already know real mediums exist it's nice to read about someone who without a doubt has the gift.
Oh and I watched the show a few times :)
August 23, 2007
I liked the last couple chapters better than most of the book. It was an interesting read in that it expanded my perception of intuition and "the other side", but I felt distant from the writer. I never felt "pulled in".
April 27, 2008
Although it was interesting, it is geared to those people who know very little about mediumship. I am past that point, so didn't find much new in the book.
And her writing seemed rather repetitive.
And her writing seemed rather repetitive.
October 26, 2008
I think I was expecting something different from this book than I got. It read very much like a how-to-book on being a medium rather than telling her story. Lots of examples of her readings, but to me they felt detached. I am a fan of the show and I guess I was expecting a more fluid story line.
August 2, 2010
I SO love the show Medium so I was a bit disappointed when this was a bit of a snorefest. It was more like a self help for physics, when I was really only reading it for her personal experiences/stories.
August 10, 2012
I am a fan of the TV show "Medium" so I was curious about the real-life Allison Dubois. I believe she is the real deal and she has a genuine warm personality. Her life experiences were haunting and fascinating. I wish she would have written more of them in this book.
August 20, 2015
I picked this up because it looked like a quick read, and I loved the TV show. Well, this book is nothing like the TV show. It's repetitious, self-congratulatory, and boring. Further research confirmed my suspicions that the author's claims are exaggerated at best.
April 11, 2007
Well written - in the form of memories, essays and narrative. She gives example of post Earthly plane encounters and courage to others like her who experience more than the normal.
February 6, 2021
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February 2, 2015
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As the Mulder of my marriage’s Mulder and Scully partnership, every once in awhile I like to pick up books about the supernatural and paranormal. I don’t know how much I believe in this stuff (I tend to sway back and forth about it), but I do know that I’ve had weird experiences that I can’t explain, and therefore I prefer not to write just anything off. Along with this, I am a huge fan of the former NBC/CBS/whatever show MEDIUM, as I love Patricia Arquette, a show about a well rounded woman, and her hot hot husband. I wasn’t in the target demographic I’m sure, but damn I love that show and watch it on Netflix a fair amount of the time. So, all this being said, I decided to read one of the books by Allison Dubois, the self proclaimed medium that the show is based on. I have read another book by another self proclaimed medium, The Ghost Whisperer person THAT show was based on, and it was okay at best. I went in with mediated hopes because of that experience.
Allison Dubois is a self proclaimed medium, or in more layman’s terms a psychic (though she doesn’t like that phrase). She says that she can communicate with those who have passed on, and get feelings about certain situations and people. This book recounts her experiences with these talents, both in a professional sense (as she does do some consulting work for various agencies) and in a personal sense, in her life and her friends lives. She tells stories of laughter, love, heartbreak, and triumph, sharing her opinions on her talent and giving advice to people who think that they or those they love may have similar talents.
The reasons that I liked this book more than other books of this type are fairly simple. First of all, I liked Allison’s voice. She has a wry sense of humor to go with her stories, and has a very compassionate voice in her narrative. She also doesn’t speak in as black and white, absolute terms as others in this field do, as I didn’t really feel any judgment from Dubois regarding the afterlife, people’s personal beliefs, and things of that nature. I also really enjoyed the stories that she told, from the nice and fancy free to the sadder ones. She is a gifted story teller. I will say that out that I do think that I believe in greater gifts of intuition, as I believe that some people just get better reads off of others, and know how to approach a situation based on their gut instincts. I definitely believe that Allison Dubois, at the very least, has this talent to brag about. And that isn’t something to write off. I think that my favorite chapter, though, was the one written by her husband Joe. He had many nice things to say about his wife, and you could tell that at the very least he finds her to be extraordinary as a person. I really liked that chapter, it was incredibly sweet.
Do I believe that Allison Dubois talks with the dead? I couldn’t say. I do believe that she has a deep intuition and an optimistic view on life, and how we as humans can interact with each other. I found this read to be breezy and just downright pleasant, and while I am still no closer to knowing how I feel about things like this, I still liked the time I spent on this book. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m going to continue my third rewatch of MEDIUM on Netflix.
As the Mulder of my marriage’s Mulder and Scully partnership, every once in awhile I like to pick up books about the supernatural and paranormal. I don’t know how much I believe in this stuff (I tend to sway back and forth about it), but I do know that I’ve had weird experiences that I can’t explain, and therefore I prefer not to write just anything off. Along with this, I am a huge fan of the former NBC/CBS/whatever show MEDIUM, as I love Patricia Arquette, a show about a well rounded woman, and her hot hot husband. I wasn’t in the target demographic I’m sure, but damn I love that show and watch it on Netflix a fair amount of the time. So, all this being said, I decided to read one of the books by Allison Dubois, the self proclaimed medium that the show is based on. I have read another book by another self proclaimed medium, The Ghost Whisperer person THAT show was based on, and it was okay at best. I went in with mediated hopes because of that experience.
Allison Dubois is a self proclaimed medium, or in more layman’s terms a psychic (though she doesn’t like that phrase). She says that she can communicate with those who have passed on, and get feelings about certain situations and people. This book recounts her experiences with these talents, both in a professional sense (as she does do some consulting work for various agencies) and in a personal sense, in her life and her friends lives. She tells stories of laughter, love, heartbreak, and triumph, sharing her opinions on her talent and giving advice to people who think that they or those they love may have similar talents.
The reasons that I liked this book more than other books of this type are fairly simple. First of all, I liked Allison’s voice. She has a wry sense of humor to go with her stories, and has a very compassionate voice in her narrative. She also doesn’t speak in as black and white, absolute terms as others in this field do, as I didn’t really feel any judgment from Dubois regarding the afterlife, people’s personal beliefs, and things of that nature. I also really enjoyed the stories that she told, from the nice and fancy free to the sadder ones. She is a gifted story teller. I will say that out that I do think that I believe in greater gifts of intuition, as I believe that some people just get better reads off of others, and know how to approach a situation based on their gut instincts. I definitely believe that Allison Dubois, at the very least, has this talent to brag about. And that isn’t something to write off. I think that my favorite chapter, though, was the one written by her husband Joe. He had many nice things to say about his wife, and you could tell that at the very least he finds her to be extraordinary as a person. I really liked that chapter, it was incredibly sweet.
Do I believe that Allison Dubois talks with the dead? I couldn’t say. I do believe that she has a deep intuition and an optimistic view on life, and how we as humans can interact with each other. I found this read to be breezy and just downright pleasant, and while I am still no closer to knowing how I feel about things like this, I still liked the time I spent on this book. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m going to continue my third rewatch of MEDIUM on Netflix.
January 21, 2019
I admit to being a fan of the television show "
Medium
" and, one night, whilst surfing the internet, I stumbled across Allison DuBois's website. I've always held a fascination about those psychics/mediums who work with police (and other governmental) departments and it was interesting to read more about the woman who inspired the television show I enjoyed. I was excited to see that Allison had written books about her experiences, so I acquired one through a book swapping site.
I started reading this book last Friday on my way to work and, by the end of my shift, I had finished it. Its an easy read this book, with large font and written at a level so a primary school child could understand. Its not a work of great literature and its obvious Allison, and Joe have written the text themselves, but I think that adds to the books appeal. I have seen where some readers have complained about the dryness of book, but Allison herself admits to distancing herself emotionally from her clients and their predicaments, as a professional necessity, so I was comfortable with this aspect of her style.
I also read complaints from reviewers, who were big fans of the television shows, about there not being enough about those cases which were the inspiration for various episodes. This seemed odd to me. Knowing that Allison works in the legal field, I can see the problems associated with giving details of the "real life" cases in which she has participated. Anyone whose case she came into contact with might find grounds for appeal and, given the nature of the cases on which Allison works, it would be foolish for her to divulge this information. In fact, I think she mentions this in the book. Also, one has to consider the privacy of the victim's families in these cases: giving out details in a book (from which profits will be made - let's face reality here) would be in poor taste, in my opinion. I think Allison holds herself to a much higher ethical and moral standard myself. Certainly, she gives this impression in the book.
Again, some found this book preachy, I found it comforting. Only in those instances where she had been granted permission by the client did Allison provide details of her work. I liked her approach to each client: taking into account what they might need to know and what might benefit them, or the case, rather than just blurting out details that might be painful to hear and added nothing to an investigation. In many instances, Allison did provide comfort merely by the choice of the information she divulged.
The book is packed with examples of her work, despite what you might read from other reviewers. Allison also provides hints and tips for help with those children that might show signs of mediumship, whether they decide to develop their skills or suppress them. The book was a little dull, sticking to the facts, but I have come to expect that from writers from the legal fields, where unembellisment is the norm, so I still enjoyed this book.
I found it fascinating and will endeavour to read Allison DuBois's other books, "We are Their Heaven: Why the Dead Never Leave Us" and "Secrets of the Monarch: What the Dead can Teach Us about Living a Better Life". I hope to find them just as honest and informative.
I started reading this book last Friday on my way to work and, by the end of my shift, I had finished it. Its an easy read this book, with large font and written at a level so a primary school child could understand. Its not a work of great literature and its obvious Allison, and Joe have written the text themselves, but I think that adds to the books appeal. I have seen where some readers have complained about the dryness of book, but Allison herself admits to distancing herself emotionally from her clients and their predicaments, as a professional necessity, so I was comfortable with this aspect of her style.
I also read complaints from reviewers, who were big fans of the television shows, about there not being enough about those cases which were the inspiration for various episodes. This seemed odd to me. Knowing that Allison works in the legal field, I can see the problems associated with giving details of the "real life" cases in which she has participated. Anyone whose case she came into contact with might find grounds for appeal and, given the nature of the cases on which Allison works, it would be foolish for her to divulge this information. In fact, I think she mentions this in the book. Also, one has to consider the privacy of the victim's families in these cases: giving out details in a book (from which profits will be made - let's face reality here) would be in poor taste, in my opinion. I think Allison holds herself to a much higher ethical and moral standard myself. Certainly, she gives this impression in the book.
Again, some found this book preachy, I found it comforting. Only in those instances where she had been granted permission by the client did Allison provide details of her work. I liked her approach to each client: taking into account what they might need to know and what might benefit them, or the case, rather than just blurting out details that might be painful to hear and added nothing to an investigation. In many instances, Allison did provide comfort merely by the choice of the information she divulged.
The book is packed with examples of her work, despite what you might read from other reviewers. Allison also provides hints and tips for help with those children that might show signs of mediumship, whether they decide to develop their skills or suppress them. The book was a little dull, sticking to the facts, but I have come to expect that from writers from the legal fields, where unembellisment is the norm, so I still enjoyed this book.
I found it fascinating and will endeavour to read Allison DuBois's other books, "We are Their Heaven: Why the Dead Never Leave Us" and "Secrets of the Monarch: What the Dead can Teach Us about Living a Better Life". I hope to find them just as honest and informative.
April 7, 2023
THE STAR OF THE ‘MEDIUM’ TV SERIES TALKS OF HER LIFE AND WORK
Medium/Psychic Allison DuBois wrote in the Introduction to this 2004 book, “For those of you familiar with the hit television series ‘Medium’ you probably already know that it’s based on my real experiences. For those of you unfamiliar with the show, I encourage you to tune in and explore life after death. [This book] elaborates on my life minus the great television writers. It is my way of sharing with you how I’m affected by being a medium. Perhaps you are intrigued by my being able to see and feel events that not all people can. Perhaps learning about mediums will raise questions for you about your own life. Maybe you’re one of the many who knows your loved ones are still around and you want to strengthen your connections with them. I invite you to join me on this adventure through my life so that you can better understand how the events in my life have shaped who I am.
“I will give you a glimpse of what life can be after death. I also will talk to you about how to stay connected to those who matter to you most. May this book inspire you as so many have inspired me. In this book, I share my own childhood experiences in order to connect and relate to young mediums who have questions and doubts about their gifts… I want the person reading my book to have real insight into the life of a person with special abilities. I want you to better understand where psychics and mediums come from and what kinds of potential we have. Being able to relate to or think about the unknown is half the battle of expanding your spiritual beliefs. Having the opportunity to experience it personally is the other half.” (Pg. ixx-xx)
She continues, “I am a medium and a profiler. This means I can predict future events, I can get into a person’s mind, in can detect health problems in people, and I can communicate with the dead. Yes, I see dead people. I have often wished that someone would come up with a better word than ‘psychic’ to describe people like me. Between all the con artists out there and the gypsy and witch stereotypes, the word has been forever tainted. Call it what you want; I have what I refer to as the gift.” (Pg. xx-xxi)
She explains, “Please remember that mediums serve people both living and dead. We bridge the gap. If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, I hope this book will help you to see that indeed there is a whole world on the other side.” (Pg. xxvi)
She recounts, “at the ripe old age of six, I saw my first glimpse of the other side… As a psychic child, I needed to be encouraged to talk about my ability, but how could my mom have known what I needed? It is not commonly known in our society how to help young psychics develop their gifts. One of the reasons I wrote this book is to assist parents and their gifted children in avoiding misunderstanding and confusion. I want to prevent young people from turning away from their gift and instead to embrace it early in life.” (Pg. 13, 15-16)
When she was eleven, “I remember my fear of abduction turning to anger and then into a plan… I felt the calling to turn the tide against child predators… in November 2000, my life’s goal would reemerge as a result of a missing person case… If I can provide law enforcement with perpetrator information that helps point them in the right direction, then I have helped in the fight against a lowlife… If I can help to ease the pain of a victim’s family members and somehow make their hearts lighter, then the heavy nature of the tasks I undertake is well worth it.” (Pg. 20)
She reports, “I have worked on numerous missing person cases. I profile for law enforcement and I assist the friends and families of murdered people. I can access both the victims’ and the perpetrators’ minds… Most people don’t realize that there are plenty of competent psychic profilers (although the psychic part isn’t always acknowledged) out there who assist law enforcement every day. Understand that often we cannot take any credit for our work because it can legally hinder a case… Law enforcement is also hesitant to acknowledge our role because of the controversy surrounding psychics… For the record, I’ve never asked for or accepted payment for my work on any such case.” (Pg. 22-23) Later, she acknowledges, “ours isn’t a perfect science. Profilers are still human beings who will have margins of error, like everyone else. But there is no doubt that profiling can help victims. It is an ability that must be acknowledged, because the stakes are so high: human life.” (Pg. 32)
She states, “I am also used for jury selection in rape/homicide cases, in order to obtain the sentence the prosecution wants. I only work with prosecution teams I am familiar with. Also, I only work cases where there is no doubt the defendant committed the crime. I want the information I receive to be backed up by DNA evidence. I do not take what I do lightly.” (Pg. 37)
She asserts, “Children are easier for spirits to access than adults are. Adults have issues and emotional walls built up that can make it difficult for a spirit to come through to them. Often a spirit has whispered messages or tried to be seen by a loved one, only to be dismissed.” (Pg. 43)
She cautions, “If you bug the police too often with every little feeling that you get, they will start to not listen to you. You will be branded as a wacko psychic and you will lose all credibility with law enforcement. You want to keep this door open in case you find that you really can help solve a crime.” (Pg. 65)
She admits, “Psychics can fall prey to all normal human foibles. For instance, we have al had our eyes play tricks on us, where we think we see someone we know and then find out that it wasn’t who we thought it was after all. Or sometimes we don’t hear someone clearly when they speak to us. Often we think we hear our name being called and then find out that it was just voices on the television downstairs… Sometimes the human senses mislead us… This can happen with the sixth sense, too.” (Pg. 105-106)
She argues, “There is nothing wrong with something of a skeptic. Skeptics … aren’t sure one way or the other and they’re not easily persuaded… Angry skeptics are a different story. These are people who project their anger stemming from the loss of someone close to them onto issues dealing with the unknown… An angry skeptic can also be a person who feel superior in intelligence to the rest of society… They make mediums the target of their anger as they protect the less capable from us… They tend to make ridiculous arguments against the other side… I came to the realization that I could spend my entire life trying to please difficult people like this, but what a waste of time and energy that would be. Besides, they are a miniscule group… If an angry skeptic won’t acknowledge the spiritual aspect of the afterlife and won’t acknowledge our scientific approach to the afterlife, then it’s his own hangup… Angry skeptics are the same people who insisted the world was flat. They are afraid of what they might find if they explore the unknown.” (Pg. 110-112)
She notes, “there are a lot of con artists out there who give legitimate mediums a bad name… If you ever go to a psychic and they try to sell you anything by telling you that without it your future is bleak, turn around and walk out immediately… please remember to not lump all psychics together… (Pg. 115-116)
Chapter 16 recounts her experiences working with Dr. Gary Schwartz “about his research on the survival of human energy after death…” (Pg. 176)
She records, “While writing this book I was given the opportunity to audition for a television pilot. The producers wanted to sample my talent through a phone reading for one of their executives… I usually prefer to read a client in person, so I was a bit leery. The morning of my interview arrived and I prepared for my conference call reading…” (Pg. 189)
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This book will appeal to people interested in mediums.
Medium/Psychic Allison DuBois wrote in the Introduction to this 2004 book, “For those of you familiar with the hit television series ‘Medium’ you probably already know that it’s based on my real experiences. For those of you unfamiliar with the show, I encourage you to tune in and explore life after death. [This book] elaborates on my life minus the great television writers. It is my way of sharing with you how I’m affected by being a medium. Perhaps you are intrigued by my being able to see and feel events that not all people can. Perhaps learning about mediums will raise questions for you about your own life. Maybe you’re one of the many who knows your loved ones are still around and you want to strengthen your connections with them. I invite you to join me on this adventure through my life so that you can better understand how the events in my life have shaped who I am.
“I will give you a glimpse of what life can be after death. I also will talk to you about how to stay connected to those who matter to you most. May this book inspire you as so many have inspired me. In this book, I share my own childhood experiences in order to connect and relate to young mediums who have questions and doubts about their gifts… I want the person reading my book to have real insight into the life of a person with special abilities. I want you to better understand where psychics and mediums come from and what kinds of potential we have. Being able to relate to or think about the unknown is half the battle of expanding your spiritual beliefs. Having the opportunity to experience it personally is the other half.” (Pg. ixx-xx)
She continues, “I am a medium and a profiler. This means I can predict future events, I can get into a person’s mind, in can detect health problems in people, and I can communicate with the dead. Yes, I see dead people. I have often wished that someone would come up with a better word than ‘psychic’ to describe people like me. Between all the con artists out there and the gypsy and witch stereotypes, the word has been forever tainted. Call it what you want; I have what I refer to as the gift.” (Pg. xx-xxi)
She explains, “Please remember that mediums serve people both living and dead. We bridge the gap. If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, I hope this book will help you to see that indeed there is a whole world on the other side.” (Pg. xxvi)
She recounts, “at the ripe old age of six, I saw my first glimpse of the other side… As a psychic child, I needed to be encouraged to talk about my ability, but how could my mom have known what I needed? It is not commonly known in our society how to help young psychics develop their gifts. One of the reasons I wrote this book is to assist parents and their gifted children in avoiding misunderstanding and confusion. I want to prevent young people from turning away from their gift and instead to embrace it early in life.” (Pg. 13, 15-16)
When she was eleven, “I remember my fear of abduction turning to anger and then into a plan… I felt the calling to turn the tide against child predators… in November 2000, my life’s goal would reemerge as a result of a missing person case… If I can provide law enforcement with perpetrator information that helps point them in the right direction, then I have helped in the fight against a lowlife… If I can help to ease the pain of a victim’s family members and somehow make their hearts lighter, then the heavy nature of the tasks I undertake is well worth it.” (Pg. 20)
She reports, “I have worked on numerous missing person cases. I profile for law enforcement and I assist the friends and families of murdered people. I can access both the victims’ and the perpetrators’ minds… Most people don’t realize that there are plenty of competent psychic profilers (although the psychic part isn’t always acknowledged) out there who assist law enforcement every day. Understand that often we cannot take any credit for our work because it can legally hinder a case… Law enforcement is also hesitant to acknowledge our role because of the controversy surrounding psychics… For the record, I’ve never asked for or accepted payment for my work on any such case.” (Pg. 22-23) Later, she acknowledges, “ours isn’t a perfect science. Profilers are still human beings who will have margins of error, like everyone else. But there is no doubt that profiling can help victims. It is an ability that must be acknowledged, because the stakes are so high: human life.” (Pg. 32)
She states, “I am also used for jury selection in rape/homicide cases, in order to obtain the sentence the prosecution wants. I only work with prosecution teams I am familiar with. Also, I only work cases where there is no doubt the defendant committed the crime. I want the information I receive to be backed up by DNA evidence. I do not take what I do lightly.” (Pg. 37)
She asserts, “Children are easier for spirits to access than adults are. Adults have issues and emotional walls built up that can make it difficult for a spirit to come through to them. Often a spirit has whispered messages or tried to be seen by a loved one, only to be dismissed.” (Pg. 43)
She cautions, “If you bug the police too often with every little feeling that you get, they will start to not listen to you. You will be branded as a wacko psychic and you will lose all credibility with law enforcement. You want to keep this door open in case you find that you really can help solve a crime.” (Pg. 65)
She admits, “Psychics can fall prey to all normal human foibles. For instance, we have al had our eyes play tricks on us, where we think we see someone we know and then find out that it wasn’t who we thought it was after all. Or sometimes we don’t hear someone clearly when they speak to us. Often we think we hear our name being called and then find out that it was just voices on the television downstairs… Sometimes the human senses mislead us… This can happen with the sixth sense, too.” (Pg. 105-106)
She argues, “There is nothing wrong with something of a skeptic. Skeptics … aren’t sure one way or the other and they’re not easily persuaded… Angry skeptics are a different story. These are people who project their anger stemming from the loss of someone close to them onto issues dealing with the unknown… An angry skeptic can also be a person who feel superior in intelligence to the rest of society… They make mediums the target of their anger as they protect the less capable from us… They tend to make ridiculous arguments against the other side… I came to the realization that I could spend my entire life trying to please difficult people like this, but what a waste of time and energy that would be. Besides, they are a miniscule group… If an angry skeptic won’t acknowledge the spiritual aspect of the afterlife and won’t acknowledge our scientific approach to the afterlife, then it’s his own hangup… Angry skeptics are the same people who insisted the world was flat. They are afraid of what they might find if they explore the unknown.” (Pg. 110-112)
She notes, “there are a lot of con artists out there who give legitimate mediums a bad name… If you ever go to a psychic and they try to sell you anything by telling you that without it your future is bleak, turn around and walk out immediately… please remember to not lump all psychics together… (Pg. 115-116)
Chapter 16 recounts her experiences working with Dr. Gary Schwartz “about his research on the survival of human energy after death…” (Pg. 176)
She records, “While writing this book I was given the opportunity to audition for a television pilot. The producers wanted to sample my talent through a phone reading for one of their executives… I usually prefer to read a client in person, so I was a bit leery. The morning of my interview arrived and I prepared for my conference call reading…” (Pg. 189)
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This book will appeal to people interested in mediums.
May 13, 2008
Don't Kiss Them Goodbye
Alision Dubios
Audio Book-read by author
Non-Fiction
Her visions have helped solve crimes; her instincts have helped find missing people; she can predict future events and sense your thoughts.
These are some of the extraordinary gifts that define the remarkable Allison DuBois, the real-life medium, wife, and mother whose life is the inspiration for the hit NBC television series Medium.
When she was six years old, Allison's deceased great-grandfather came to her with a message for her mother: "I am okay, I am still with you. Tell your mom there's no more pain." Allison shared his comforting words with her mother and thus began a lifetime of creating connections between loved ones and those they have lost. The purpose of her gifts became clearer when Allison worked as an intern in the homicide bureau of the district attorney's office and found that she visualized the crime as she handled the evidence. Allison now works as a profiler on criminal investigations.
In this stunning book, Allison shares fascinating stories of her encounters with people who have passed and her adventures as a profiler for various law enforcement organizations. With wit and compassion, Allison shows us what it is like to live with these special gifts and talents and also tells about her struggle to live a normal life as a devoted wife and mother. She shows how learning to accept her own gifts has helped her accept the unique gifts of others and how her compelling desire to relieve the pain of others has helped define her own life, a life committed to the search for ultimate truth.
If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, this book will help you see that there is a living energy beyond death.
Alision Dubios
Audio Book-read by author
Non-Fiction
Her visions have helped solve crimes; her instincts have helped find missing people; she can predict future events and sense your thoughts.
These are some of the extraordinary gifts that define the remarkable Allison DuBois, the real-life medium, wife, and mother whose life is the inspiration for the hit NBC television series Medium.
When she was six years old, Allison's deceased great-grandfather came to her with a message for her mother: "I am okay, I am still with you. Tell your mom there's no more pain." Allison shared his comforting words with her mother and thus began a lifetime of creating connections between loved ones and those they have lost. The purpose of her gifts became clearer when Allison worked as an intern in the homicide bureau of the district attorney's office and found that she visualized the crime as she handled the evidence. Allison now works as a profiler on criminal investigations.
In this stunning book, Allison shares fascinating stories of her encounters with people who have passed and her adventures as a profiler for various law enforcement organizations. With wit and compassion, Allison shows us what it is like to live with these special gifts and talents and also tells about her struggle to live a normal life as a devoted wife and mother. She shows how learning to accept her own gifts has helped her accept the unique gifts of others and how her compelling desire to relieve the pain of others has helped define her own life, a life committed to the search for ultimate truth.
If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, this book will help you see that there is a living energy beyond death.
September 29, 2012
Allison DuBois - a woman who shares her experiences as a person coming to terms with her gift as a psychic medium. This is the true story of the woman who inspired the television series MEDIUM. Allison makes it quite clear that either you believe or you don't, and either way is okay with her. She's not trying to win converts.
I am grateful to Allison and others who are gifted, for being brave enough to share their thoughts and experiences. There are very few people who are willing to admit to others that they believe in an after life or may have experienced something "other worldly" even though we continue to be fascinated by the possibility.
For those of you who are skeptical about such things, don't bother reading this book. For those of you who think that there is the possibility of an energy that continues beyond this world, you will enjoy this book.
It is a super fast read. I did not watch the television series on a regular basis and in fact I've probably seen only a handful of partial episodes but I thought the book was great. I found the book in a second-hand shop while searching the shelves for interesting biographies. Forgive the pun, but "something" told me that I had made a good choice in reading material when the sales clerk reluctantly let go of the book and packaged it after she read the back and inside of the dust cover.
I am grateful to Allison and others who are gifted, for being brave enough to share their thoughts and experiences. There are very few people who are willing to admit to others that they believe in an after life or may have experienced something "other worldly" even though we continue to be fascinated by the possibility.
For those of you who are skeptical about such things, don't bother reading this book. For those of you who think that there is the possibility of an energy that continues beyond this world, you will enjoy this book.
It is a super fast read. I did not watch the television series on a regular basis and in fact I've probably seen only a handful of partial episodes but I thought the book was great. I found the book in a second-hand shop while searching the shelves for interesting biographies. Forgive the pun, but "something" told me that I had made a good choice in reading material when the sales clerk reluctantly let go of the book and packaged it after she read the back and inside of the dust cover.
August 26, 2016
Me encanta este tipo de libros, tratan un tema que está tan cerca y a la vez tan lejos de nosotros. Y hay tantos detalles interesantes en este en particular, como eso de que, cuando chica, la autora llenaba su cama de monos de peluches, para dejar así menos espacio para los espíritus. Yo cuando chica también sentía cosas, aunque no tantas y lo entiendo, entiendo que haya querido protegerse, porque, por distinto e intrigante que parezca, NO ES DIVERTIDO VER COSAS, ni menos TENER RAZÓN.
Este libro cumple con abrir otra vez la puerta para mí. Me causa curiosidad y me provoca cierta sensación de alivio, pero... me cuesta hoy creerlo. El gremio médium desgraciadamente ha perdido credibilidad, en general, para mí, por razones que me da lata exponer acá.
Aún así me encantó su lectura, porque de los libros que he leído del tema, me pareció uno de los más sinceros. Además, ¿qué tal si es verdad, que hay algo más allá, más encima siempre acompañándonos? Es lindo recordarlo. Por último, es entretenido y está bien escrito.
Este libro cumple con abrir otra vez la puerta para mí. Me causa curiosidad y me provoca cierta sensación de alivio, pero... me cuesta hoy creerlo. El gremio médium desgraciadamente ha perdido credibilidad, en general, para mí, por razones que me da lata exponer acá.
Aún así me encantó su lectura, porque de los libros que he leído del tema, me pareció uno de los más sinceros. Además, ¿qué tal si es verdad, que hay algo más allá, más encima siempre acompañándonos? Es lindo recordarlo. Por último, es entretenido y está bien escrito.
August 29, 2017
I'm part skeptic and part believer in mediums. This was an interesting read but I don't know that there was enough information in the book to make me lean more towards believer. I would've liked more stories about missing children cases that she actually helped solved, I felt what she provided was vague. Easy to read and follow. There were parts that (if true) were comforting in regards to loved ones who have passed. I'll still read her other books.
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