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Hashtag Body Image

In an effort to engage more customers Victoria’s Secret began a “Perfect Body” campaign. The slogan was, Perfect Fit. Perfect Comfort. Perfectly Soft. The problem arose with the image they chose to use featuring what they believed to be a mixture of female body types. What upset people was that the models Victoria’s Secret chose to use were not exactly a correct representation of body size. Individuals dissatisfied with the campaign began tagging themselves as having a “perfect” body. Their message? Every body is perfect; Suggesting Victoria’s Secret should display and sell a larger variety of sizes. The media backlash caused the campaign to stop prematurely. It’s yet to be determined if they learned a lesson. Whether of not their sales suffered is unclear. Though their campaign did not include those either very small or very large, the primary negative publicity was about the latter, who are also those whose sizes are not hanging on the racks in stores.

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Similar to the negative feedback received by the Victoria’s Secret campaign was a UK supplement company, Protein World, who for weeks had a subway campaign promoting their energy drinks with large signs featuring a fit blonde woman in a bikini standing next to the lettering, “Are You Beach Body Ready?” (featured image)
The result was the same, people took to social media posting themselves in their bikinis with hashtag beachbody.

It’s certainly not out of character for companies to prey on individuals insecurities or capitalizing on diet culture by shaming those who don’t have the Protein World described “beach body” into buying product to have a different body, but these two campaigns are good examples of how society can push back.

The community reaction to these campaign means people are beginning to get tired of a culture that tells them what they should be. They are using social media to reply to the companies and say, We’re not buying it.We are happy with who we are. These hashtag activists are doing a service for the next generation who may grow up in a more body image inclusive commercial culture.

Ohhh … Alright …

Roy Lichtenstein was a pop artist prominent in the 1960’s and early 1970’s, along side other notables such as Andy Warhol and Jasper Johns, they pioneered what he called “art through parody”. Lichtenstein’s material of choice were romantic comic book, similar to soap operas on TV, these stories focused on masculine men and feminine women in distinct gender roles. The patriarchal tones to which the plots conformed were natural for the time.

aa82Interestingly, Alcoholics Anonymous tried to capitalize on the popularity of these comics by distributing their own versions (pictured above) with messages about the perils of drunkeness and it’s harm on families. Continue reading Ohhh … Alright …

Marriage, Mental Illness, and Communication

Last month my fiancée, Caitlin, and I were at a marriage preparation retreat offered by the Catholic Diocese of Minnesota to couple getting married in the Church within the year. Although I’m not a Christian, I was looking forward to the retreat. I thought Hey, I get to spend the weekend with my fiance,  meet other couples and talk about marriage ideas, and get some good advice about married life. And sure, most was God centered, which is to be expected from Catholic counselling, but marriage can be hard work so I’ll consider advise from anywhere.

Driving home from the retreat, we talked about our favorite speakers and activities. A couple in their late 50’s, who have been married 35 years, talked about the challenges they faced having one parent in a job for which he travels often, raising five kids, and trying to find time in between it all to spend time together.

What resonated most with Caitlin and I was their description of how one’s family history and tradition play a prominent role in combining two lives into one. For example, does your family use sarcasm often, talk loudly from one room to another or make jokes during inappropriate/ awkward situations (death, mental illness, surgery).

One of the host couples talked about non-verbal signs, some obvious some not. Continue reading Marriage, Mental Illness, and Communication

Ending the “friend zone”

 

I met Samantha* when I was 19. We worked together for several years before I decided to ask her out on a date, but I was unspecific and said something like,  “wanna get together some time?” She said yes, and we began spending  a lot of time together.

We went out for meals together; talked about life and boys and girls; then took a road trip across the state all the while I acted in a way I thought was flirtacious. We were friends certainly, but I thought, obviously, with time, we’d start dating.

One day I met Sam for lunch. She walked in looking so excited. “I met the best guy,” she said. My heart sank and I was upset. This fun, attractive girl and I had spent so much time together I had assumed she liked me romantically. And, since I spent so much time with her I was upset. Upset because I wasn’t going to have something to which I thought I was entitled. Continue reading Ending the “friend zone”

Thank You, Ms. Lizzie MIller


Confident, attractive, happy. Nothing describes her better.
Thank you, Ms. Miller.
OK, I know I’m more than belated on getting this out. I was just doing some research and saw it again.

The stark contrast between her photo and other common low-weight models is that she looks happy and doesn’t have this look of self-justified entitled confidence. She appears sure of herself. And that, as many studies will ensure me, is more attractive than some contrived, societal given label of worth.

Like the mona lisa, in as far as enormity of social comparisons, (i know, it’s a micro-scale comparison) Lizzie Miller has given women much to contemplate about themselves. To Appeal to other women? Or, to appeal to what men truly find attractive. I believe that’s the dilemma. A social v. self scenario that has manifested in the form of indignation v. intelligence.

look at her thighs. look at her neck. her abdomen. then look at her genuine smile. her whole body. her healthy skin. her soft hips.

the difference is adjectives. and the adjectives give emotion, feeling.
thank you, Ms. Miller for being a conduit of emotion. Something so genuine and unfamiliar. That’s unfortunate.

But may we consider ourselves fortunate, as we are all imperfect, and within that share the extraordinary, prevalent nature of self-worth. being defined only to ones self (and objective influences). as Ms. Miller is to my dream of confident, attractive, happy women everywhere I am hopeful my enthusiasm of realistic feminine ideals spreads equally and generously.