Becky Vollmer > Quotes

“It takes a great personal audacity to question the status quo, to take exception to it, to redefine it, and, ultimately, decide for your Self what “normal” is going to be. But guess what? That autonomy to choose your own circumstances is your birthright.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Autopilot is the enemy of boldness, because autopilot equals tunnel vision.

When you operate on autopilot, you reflexively do the same things, over and over, because you haven’t paused long enough to consider a more conscious choice. On autopilot, you can access just a narrow slice of the possibilities around you. In fact, the aperture is so narrow that you become literally blind to the options. You’re being carried by habit, by momentum, rather than going where you intentionally point your headlights. Hell, on autopilot, you don’t even need to check whether you even have headlights, because you’re not actually driving. You’re just drifting.

But when you get more intentional about the choices you make—no matter how small or seemingly inconsequential—the lens through which you view those choices begins to open up. The realm of what is possible widens and you can see just how many more chances life offers to align to your preferences and values, through your discernment, to your deeper being.

Change starts with acknowledging the life you’re living doesn’t line up with the life you want. From there, it’s about getting off autopilot. Then you can make decisions that honor and support that most holy part within you.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Self-care is neither frivolous nor indulgent. It is not narcissistic or greedy. It is, however, smart and sound. If, for whatever reason, you do not nurture your Self, you risk becoming worn and wearied, hollow in the shell, unable to maintain any energy in the moment, much less move forward with vigor.

Self-nourishment equals Self-love.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Any failure to live up to someone else’s expectation of you is a disappointment from which they will recover. But failure to live up to your own is a desertion of your very soul.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Acceptance does not mean you lay back and let Life have its way with you. It is not a path of hopeless acquiescence or defeated inaction, nor does it imply that you will ignore hardship or injustice (yours or others’). It simply means that you understand and acknowledge the facts of a given moment. You, as the old saying goes, let reality be reality. And after you accept “it,” whatever that is in each moment or situation, you can decide if or how you will respond.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“The opposite of fear isn't just courage. The opposite of fear is choice.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Intention without action is just wishful thinking.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Paying attention is the doorway from mind to spirit. Presence is the threshold. And mindfulness that leads to meditation is the room we seek to enter.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“You are not the stars you reached for but didn’t catch. You are the reaching.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“If there’s one thing I wish someone had told me when I was younger, it’s that lines are not meant to be toed; they are meant to be moved and redrawn and colored in and erased until they suit you—and you can do that as many times as you like. They’re your lines, after all.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“You are not intended to spend this life squeezed and choked and squashed in a vise of Other People’s design, or values that aren’t your own, or an outdated world view; no, you were made for discernment, cultivation, and expansion.

Until you realize that the internal forces that guide you will evolve as you do, and that you have within you the power to shift and adapt them so that they better meet your needs at various points in your life, trying to exist under the constraints of anything that doesn’t fit will be a significant source of inner conflict. But when you understand that you are free to live by your rules—not those laid down by your partner or family of origin, where you work or where you worship—you also realize that you can rewrite them as needed. You can create a life that is tailor-made.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“You are badass, bold, and backed by the power of the Universe.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“We all have choices; we just have to be brave enough to make them.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom

“Honoring your soul doesn't make you full of yourself; it makes you filled with your Self.”
― Becky Vollmer, You Are Not Stuck: How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom