People Pleasing Quotes

“Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label "codependent." They have worried themselves sick about other people. They have tried to help in ways that didn't help. They have said yes when they meant no. They have tried to make other people see things their way. They have bent over backwards avoiding hurting people's feelings and, in so doing, have hurt themselves. They have been afraid to trust their feelings. They have believed lies and then felt betrayed. They have wanted to get even and punish others. They have felt so angry they wanted to kill. They have struggled for their rights while other people said they didn't have any. They have worn sackcloth because they didn't believe they deserved silk.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“When I feel my poetry touches someone's heart or mind, I'm fulfilled.”
― Suman Pokhrel

“One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is that no matter how good a person you are, no matter how much you try to understand others, be empathetic, or reach out to help, some people just will not like you. Ever.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“You must stop pleasing others because those other people literally have no idea who you ARE.”
― Julie Lythcott-Haims, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

“Knowing who we are in Christ sets us free from the need to impress others.”
― Joyce Meyer, Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone

“True intimacy comes from vulnerability, and vulnerability comes from authenticity.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Sometimes the universe conspires in ways that make it look like you are being rejected, but really, you are being protected from misaligned, potentially harmful people and situations.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“You do not have to change yourself to appease anyone.

You are perfectly worthy as you are.

You do not have to earn love and support.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“I put on the mask and robe, thinking that it would help me fit in. But soon the plaster crumbled and the fabric frayed, showing my true skin.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Sometimes life will tear your house apart so you can see the cracks in the foundation.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“All along, what should have been my decision became everyone’s decision, and I had no clue what informed the choices they were making for me. Often, people make decisions based on where they are with themselves.”
― Elelwani Anita Ravhuhali, From Seeking To Radiating Love: Evolution is unavoidable in the process of overpowering doubt

“I performed for love everywhere. I believed that you needed to earn love by overworking yourself for recognition. I didn’t know that the more I presented myself willingly to beg for love, the more I was inviting chaos into my life.”
― Elelwani Anita Ravhuhali, From Seeking To Radiating Love: Evolution is unavoidable in the process of overpowering doubt

“People pleasing is really fearing peoples reactions, rejection or abandonment.”
― Tracy A Malone

“If you don't voice your concerns and speak your truth, people will assume that you'll accept disrespectful behavior.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“I would rather lose with people and win with God; rather than lose with God and win with people. We are born to please God and serve people”
― Dr. Lucas D. Shallua

“It's safe to receive.
It's safe to let others help you.
It's safe to soften.
It's okay to pull back.
It's okay to look after yourself.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“You will never please every single person. It doesn't matter how good your intentions are.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“If I can be everything to everybody then I don’t have to be anything to me.”
― Gail Fritz

“When we buy into those limiting and marginalizing stories, our souls are in exile. We spend our days worrying about pleasing others rather than doing what’s right for us—and, ultimately, what’s right for our families, our community, and our world.”
― Kathy Sparrow, Ignite Your Leadership: Proven Tools for Leaders to Energize Teams, Fuel Momentum and Accelerate Results

“People pleasing is really fearing peoples reactions, rejection or abandonment.”
― Tracy Malone

“Once you get rid of the idea that you must please other people before you please yourself, and you begin to follow your own instincts — only then can you be successful.”
― Raquel Welch

“I'd tried so hard. Given my all to be the perfect Elsie he wanted and..." It almost hurts too much to say it.

"You gave him a perfect version of you, and he still didn't want you," Jack says prosaically. Almost detached. Like I'm a gravitational singularity that can be explained, cataloged, predicted. I'm momentarily stunned by how right he is. Then I'm surprised that I'm even surprised.

"And what you took away from it was that you had to try harder.”
― Ali Hazelwood, Love, Theoretically

“Imagine how different the world would be if little girls were taught to set boundaries as often as they were taught to be polite.”
― Hailey Paige Magee, Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power

“This healing isn’t a one-time event; it is a process of rededicating ourselves to ourselves, over and over again. Every time we redirect our attention back to our feelings, our desires, and our dreams, we are healing. Every time we soothe ourselves through our guilt instead of reacting to it, we are healing. Every time we use our voice where we would have once stayed silent, we are healing.”
― Hailey Paige Magee, Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power

“He tries to please them all, this bitter man he is.”
― James Hetfield

“Once you know how to shift your energy, no one will be able to control your energy!”
― Curtis Tyrone Jones

“The more interested you are in what God says, the less concerned you become about what man thinks.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“Seek not each man to please, for that
is more than God bids do:
Please thou the best, and neuer care,
what wicked say thereto.”
― Isabella Whitney, A sweet nosgay, or pleasant posye: Contayning a hundred and ten phylosophical flowers

“I must have done it right,’ Holden said. ‘Everyone’s pissed.”
― James S.A. Corey, Cibola Burn

“You can't please people who aren't pleased with themselves.”
― Marion Bekoe