Tap into the power of neurobiology to create healthy boundaries and more authentic connections with others. Do you struggle to set boundaries with others in your life? Has your past conditioned you to expect pushback when setting boundaries, or caused you to give up on trying to set boundaries altogether? The prospect of setting boundaries can be scary and intimidating, and can put you in a very vulnerable place where your mental health and well-being may even be at risk. There is a science to creating boundaries—one that will empower you, deepen your connection with others, and improve your self-esteem. Setting Boundaries That Stick offers a scientific, neurobiological approach to boundary work. This unique guide will teach you to set healthy boundaries from the inside out by cultivating an “integrated brain,” which allows you to respond to others with intention, rather than simply reacting based on instinct. Also included are exercises and activities to help you understand and create both physical and psychological boundaries, thereby building a solid, holistic framework for a more authentic sense of connection with others. It’s time to set boundaries in a way that empowers you to protect yourself, while also improving your relationships. By working from the inside out, this book will help you set healthy boundaries that actually stick .
If you want to respond to others rather than react then this book is for you. This book teaches how to discover, create, communicate and hold boundaries. It talks about 2 different types of brain “integrated and disintegrated” which are necessary for proper functioning of our reaction and responsiveness. Also, compassion is the main component towards others and self to develop healthy boundaries. I like the analogy of self with a river. Read for yourself to find the explanation to this analogy.
Expertly written in an approachable and knowledgeable way. I laughed several times in this book. The length makes it seem easy to come back to in the future. Excited to speak with the author tonight! Here are some of my favorite parts:
Setting boundaries that stick
Boundaries are any thing a person does to feel safer
Not protected vs protected brain state Non integrated brain state rescues child from street without thinking Non integrated brain state also says hurtful things during fight
Requests vs complaints
Suffering often comes when we put our will up against reality.
Boundaries are what I will do not what I expect someone else to do.
You were right, it hurts when she does this. It’s also not my life. She can live her life her way, and I can take care of me with this boundary.
QUESTION: Why have soothing gestures?
Resentment is when I wanted to set a boundary but didn’t.
YASSSSS!: Wisest and kindest version of me, where do I want my boundary to be.
Boundaries are the distance to which I can love both you and me simultaneously. - Prentiss Hemphill
Able to take in the past- HAHA: on this planet stuff falls down
Discernment practices Is it true? Is it about me?
The horse and the broken leg Tragic? Hmmm we’ll see. Wonderful blessing? Hmmm we’ll see.
Healthy is not in the middle of the spectrum, it is what is right for you in a given moment.
Containing boundary 1. Pause 2. Compassion gesture 3. Values words
LOVE THIS: “Seth puts his hand on his heart and quietly says the word: Goonies.”
What to do during a time out: 1. Give yourself some time 2. Love yourself like crazy 3. Reengage
Ooo: Phillipa Soo quote
Research shows that behavioral change and courage are shown to be much higher and longer lasting in those who use self compassion as opposed to self criticism.
"Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered" by Juliane T Shore and Rebecca Wong is a groundbreaking book that offers invaluable insights into the complex world of boundaries and personal empowerment. With a blend of neuroscience and practical advice, Shore and Wong provide readers with the tools they need to establish healthy boundaries, feel safe in their relationships, and reclaim their personal power.
The authors draw upon the latest research in neurobiology to explain how our brains process boundaries and why they are essential for our emotional well-being. Through accessible language and relatable examples, they demystify the concept of boundaries and guide readers through the process of setting and maintaining them effectively.
One of the book's most significant strengths is its emphasis on the connection between boundaries and our sense of safety and empowerment. Shore and Wong highlight the ways in which healthy boundaries can enhance our relationships, boost our self-esteem, and create a greater sense of security in our lives. By providing practical exercises and real-life anecdotes, they empower readers to take control of their boundaries and assert their needs with confidence.
Moreover, "Setting Boundaries that Stick" has the potential to have a profound impact on one's life by offering a roadmap to personal growth and empowerment. By rewiring their brains to recognize and respect boundaries, readers can cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships and create a life that aligns with their values and desires.
In conclusion, "Setting Boundaries that Stick" is a must-read for anyone looking to cultivate healthier relationships, boost their self-esteem, and reclaim their personal power. For its insightful blend of neuroscience and practical advice, I would rate this book 5 out of 5 stars. It is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to live a more empowered and fulfilling life.
"Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered" by Juliane T Shore and Rebecca Wong is a groundbreaking book that offers invaluable insights into the complex world of boundaries and personal empowerment. With a blend of neuroscience and practical advice, Shore and Wong provide readers with the tools they need to establish healthy boundaries, feel safe in their relationships, and reclaim their personal power.
The authors draw upon the latest research in neurobiology to explain how our brains process boundaries and why they are essential for our emotional well-being. Through accessible language and relatable examples, they demystify the concept of boundaries and guide readers through the process of setting and maintaining them effectively.
One of the book's most significant strengths is its emphasis on the connection between boundaries and our sense of safety and empowerment. Shore and Wong highlight the ways in which healthy boundaries can enhance our relationships, boost our self-esteem, and create a greater sense of security in our lives. By providing practical exercises and real-life anecdotes, they empower readers to take control of their boundaries and assert their needs with confidence.
Moreover, "Setting Boundaries that Stick" has the potential to have a profound impact on one's life by offering a roadmap to personal growth and empowerment. By rewiring their brains to recognize and respect boundaries, readers can cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships and create a life that aligns with their values and desires.
In conclusion, "Setting Boundaries that Stick" is a must-read for anyone looking to cultivate healthier relationships, boost their self-esteem, and reclaim their personal power. For its insightful blend of neuroscience and practical advice, I would rate this book 5 out of 5 stars. It is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to live a more empowered and fulfilling life.
⭐REVIEW: Setting Boundaries That Stick by Juliane Taylor Shore
Setting boundaries for myself is one of the hardest things I find myself doing. I always struggled with standing up for myself. When something bothers me, I tend to hide it until it bursts, losing my cool, which makes me feel terrible.
Setting Boundaries that Stick is the book I didn't know I needed so badly. In Setting Boundaries that Stick, the author provides an evidence-based, neurobiological approach to setting boundaries. You'll learn to set external, psychological, containing, and physical boundaries without damaging yourself and others around you.
The book has engaging exercises to help you maintain boundaries, feel happier, and connect better with others through clear and honest communication.
🤔 My Thoughts on this book
Finally, there is a book that gives the reader a clear and incredibly actionable process to follow and accomplish their goals. The book is packed with practices you can use to change your relationship with yourself and others.
To say that the book is practical is an understatement. The author walks the reader through each step and explains how to make everything work. Moreover, the scientific approach employed by the author adds to the book the reliability most self-help books don't have.
"Why should I read it❓"
If you struggle to set boundaries with people in your life and your past has conditioned you to expect pushback when standing up for yourself, making you worried about letting others down, damaging your relationships, or being "less than" others expect of you, you need to absolutely check this book out.
Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries for yourself❓
"Setting Boundaries That Stick" by Julian Taylor offers a deep dive into the neuroscience of change, providing readers with practical tools and techniques for establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries. Taylor's approach is grounded in scientific research, ensuring that the strategies presented are effective and lasting. What sets this book apart is its brain-friendly structure, which engages readers in active learning. Through storytelling, case studies, and journal exercises, Taylor helps readers not only understand but also internalize the concepts presented. This active learning approach increases the likelihood of real change taking place. Taylor doesn't shy away from the reality of change, explaining that it typically takes about two years for change to become permanent in the brain. However, she provides practices that can show results in as little as 30 days, making the process feel achievable and encouraging. One of the book's strengths is its inclusivity. Taylor emphasizes the importance of considering one's unique background when setting boundaries, making the advice applicable to a wide range of readers. Overall, "Setting Boundaries That Stick" is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their boundary-setting skills. It offers practical tools and insights that can lead to real and lasting change in various aspects of life.
This book offers valuable insights for anyone looking to feel more empowered and build safer connections in their life. It guides you on a journey to understand boundaries, why they're important, and how healthy boundaries help us to more fully come back into connection with our own integrity and wisdom.
Through practical tools, the book helps you work with your brain to discover the boundaries that feel right for you. It also helps you understand your feelings better, with stories and questions that illustrate setting boundaries and exploring your needs.
The information in this book will transform the way you think, feel, and act. It explains how setting boundaries internally and externally creates a sense of protection and empowers you to navigate life's challenges more effectively.
By explaining the four types of boundaries(External, Psychological, Containing, Physical) and providing six steps to set all of them, this book equips you with the tools to reach your goals and shape your life with intention. It's a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their relationships and live more authentically.
'Setting Boundaries' is an essential topic for personal growth and empowerment in today's world. This book has shown me the importance of boundaries, and I am implementing its steps in my life. It's a boon for anyone looking to understand and implement healthy boundaries live with confidence, empowerment and growth.
Healing is power !! Reviewed in India on 23 February 2024 I will rate this book 5 out of 5 . No doubt this book is a mirror to the society . In This book author has explained how our childhood traumas and experiences results in producing cold adult individuals . She has given answer of many important questions like " why creating boundaries is important for healthy relationships?" , " why we should not suppress our emotions and the hidden cost of it which society ignores " , " why it is important to be a good communicator " , "why being vulnerable is actually not a sign of weakness ?" . She has explained the answer to these questions in her book perfectly . The conclusion of the book is "If individuals will heal they will effectively will able to create healthy relations with themselves and with others " . I must say " what a great book " !!
"Setting Boundaries that Stick" is a comprehensive guide to understanding and implementing healthy boundaries in all areas of life. It not only provides theory but also provides practical approaches. It provides readers with actionable steps and real-life examples to help them apply the principles of boundary-setting in their own lives.
This book is a must-read for anyone who struggles with setting and maintaining boundaries. It is especially helpful for those who tend to be people-pleasers or have a hard time saying no. It teaches how to prioritize our needs and well-being without feeling guilty or selfish. Whether you're looking to improve your personal relationships, reduce stress, or simply take better care of yourself, this book offers valuable tools and techniques to help you achieve your goals. Must-have book!
This book is full of information that can be implemented in daily life to build relationships in both personal and professional lifes. The complexity of the brain and boundary work illuminates and can be applied in day to day. It's practical heartfelt and gorgeously written.the exercises told in the book are easily understandable and can be practiced on daily basis. That Stick gives us clear steps to working with our neurobiology in order to make boundaries more automatic and built in.The cordial relations can some times be taxing and has to drawn a line to maintain peace. I specifically liked how to add the habits and thoughts to the complex organ like brain. I would recommend people who want to grow in life.
Everyone assume that setting boundaries meant that you are distancing or detaching from people but something that they don't understand is that there's a thin line between setting up boundaries that is setting boundaries that will help us and the other are the set of boundaries that affect us.
So, while you are setting up boundaries it is important for you to understand what and why you are setting boundaries for yourself.
This book asks questions and makes the reader think along with it, it also discusses the importance of setting the boundaries. Setting boundaries to make you confident, focussed, and grow. It is one of the best self development book that I have ever read from which I have learnt so many things.
Most of the times people assume things rather than referring to the facts. This book is for all those who are searching for both facts and practically applying the concepts.
The concepts of boundaries is very necessary for everyone to know and this book talks about it in detail. The best part is that it also talks about the other aspects that are apart of setting boundaries like confidence and self-esteem.
This book dives deep into the neuroscience of change along with providing exercises, case studies, journal research and more to the readers. It also provides with effective strategies that will help the readers to grow and the concept of inclusivity is great along with stating facts about the permanent change in the brain. Insightful read.
This book is filled with information that you can apply to your day-to-day life to strengthen your relationships in your personal and professional life. The intricacy of your brain and boundaries work shines through and is applicable to your daily life. It is practical, heartfelt and beautifully written. The exercises told in this book are easy to understand and can be done on a daily basis. If you want to react to others instead of reacting, then this is the book for you. This book teaches you how to find, build, communicate and maintain boundaries. It discusses two types of brain "integrated" and "disintegrated" which are essential for the proper functioning of your reaction and responsiveness.
"Setting Boundaries That Stick" by Juliane Taylor Shore is a must-read guide for anyone seeking to enhance personal growth and relationship security.
With a compassionate approach and practical insights grounded in neuroscience, Shore empowers readers to establish boundaries that foster self-esteem and deeper connections with others.
Therapists will find this book invaluable, while individuals will appreciate its relatable case examples and accessible exercises. Dive into this transformative journey and learn to set boundaries that truly stick, helping for a more authentic and fulfilling life.
"Setting Boundaries that Stick" is a helpful book about how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in your life. It gives you practical advice and real-life examples to understand why boundaries are important and how to establish them effectively. This book is great for anyone who struggles with saying no, setting healthy boundaries or dealing with difficult relationships. It teaches you how to prioritize your own needs without feeling guilty. By setting clear boundaries, you can improve your relationships and reduce stress. If you want to understand the power of setting boundaries and create a more balanced life, this book is for you.
Whether you're struggling to establish boundaries in your professional life, intimate relationships, or with family and friends, this book serves as a beacon of empowerment. It's not just about saying "no" – it's about saying "yes" to yourself, your values, and your well-being.
This book doesn't just preach about the necessity of boundaries; it equips readers with actionable strategies and exercises to implement them effectively. From mastering assertive communication to recognizing and respecting one's own limits, each chapter is a roadmap toward reclaiming control over one's life and fostering healthier relationships.
This has quickly become my favorite boundaries book; I was recommending it to clients before I even finished it. I feel like when people talk about boundaries, it is really only external boundaries; looking at internal boundaries feels revolutionary and very needed!
I will say this is a buy the actual book and work through it slowly type of read, not an audiobook in the car (what I did) kind of book. There are journal prompts and a lot to think about throughout the reading journey.
I will definitely need to reread this book to make sure to gain all the benefits of it, but I’m looking forward to doing so.
It is a very interesting book to read as this book talks about the practicality of personal development and dealing with relationships to strengthen them.
We have to get out of our trauma, past conditions and memories that haunt us to think that people can behave as they like with us. Because there should be a limit and line that should be drawn and that is why setting up boundaries is important.
By setting boundaries we'll not give a chance to people to take advantage of you but it also strengthens our relationship while empowering us.
Being there for you is very important and taking care of your physical and mental health is necessary.
This book talks about how setting up boundaries will help us to keep our mental and physical health well along with building good relationships with no hate but only compassion.
It also talks about how to reply with intuition and intention rather than a reply. It also talks about neurobiological process that takes place.
The language used in the book is easy to read. It is a must read by everyone.
This is a compelling book that takes us through the journey of telling the importance of setting boundaries with people for our physical and mental wellbeing.
Where the authors explain about how important it is for people to respond than to react for the situations.
It tells us about what, why and how to fix boundaries and stick to them.
It also talks about many internalize concepts related to neuroscience.
If you are a therapist then this book will be really helpful. Taylor's research is commendable.
This book carries a very big concept but it is explained in simple terms with an amazing analogy. Many of the people react rather then responding and they also lack with setting boundaries.
This book talks about the reasons why one should set boundaries and how they'd help them grow and build their confidence. It also talks about the integrated and disintegrated parts of brain which are important for functioning of our reactions and responses.
The exercises and case studies mentioned in the book are very exciting to read while the book structure is easy to read.
Reading books that promote the practical learning towards growth are the best because they are practical and could be applied in life and get the results.
To all the people who feel scared, intimidated, and low-self esteem setting boundaries is necessary as it helps them overcome all of them and this book tells that being vulnerable is okay and crying is a form of venting out and there should be no gender bias in it.
This book takes the readers through a neurobiological framework that helps us to create physical and psychological boundaries that will be the better for our lives.
"Setting Boundaries That Stick" by Julian Taylor dives into the science of change, offering practical tools for healthy boundaries. Taylor's approach is backed by research, ensuring effectiveness. The book's brain-friendly structure engages readers through storytelling, case studies, and exercises, aiding understanding and internalization. Taylor acknowledges change takes time but provides practices with short-term results. The book is inclusive, considering readers' backgrounds. Overall, it's a valuable resource for improving boundary-setting skills, leading to real change in life.
Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered . This is very nice book on setting boundaries in once personal life. This book gives much more clarity on how to keep your mental health priority and say no to others when it’s necessary. These boundaries can be set for friends, family and at workplace for building better relationship as well. The author gives practical tools to do so. I found this book very informative and recommend it to others.
If you are someone who has hard time saying "No" to people, who is a people pleaser and always gets hurt in the end while trying to make others happy, then you need to read this book. This book will teach you how important boundaries are in life. We all need to have these boundaries in order to protect our peace. People can only hurt you if they have access to the outside world of these boundaries and not everyone should be allowed to this world. This book has numerous stories from people about how they realized they needed healthy boundaries. You will not only read this book, but you will understand the true meaning of "boundaries" in depth. A must read for each and every person.
Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered” by Juliane Taylor Shore offers a scientific, neurobiological approach to boundary work. This unique guide teaches you to set healthy boundaries from the inside out, cultivating an “integrated brain” that empowers you to respond intentionally. Included are exercises to create both physical and psychological boundaries, enhancing authentic connections with others. A valuable read for self-improvement and healthier relationships
I am a therapist and have read many books about boundaries in the past. This was the most practical boundary book I’ve read. I enjoyed the step by step guidance for creating and holding boundaries. I found the psychological and containing boundaries sections to be incredibly useful. So often we focus on our actions when someone violates our boundaries but these sections expanded my idea of boundaries in a useful way. Highly recommended this book!
We, in general, tend to react intuitively to the situations that arises suddenly, which may be harmful to our physical and mental well-being. This book is an amazing guide to help us behave in this situations with well thought intentions and not intuitions only. This book helps us to improve in building solid relationships with set boundaries. It’s very easy to understand and it illustrates practices to train your brain’s response.
"Setting Boundaries that Stick" is a breath of fresh air in a world where people often feel pressured to say yes to everything. This book empowers you to set boundaries that are firm yet compassionate, offering practical strategies for navigating challenging situations. It's a valuable resource for anyone looking to create healthier relationships and live a more balanced life, providing a foundation for greater confidence and assertiveness.
Excellent book. The most impactful book on boundaries I’ve read so far and I have read quite a few. It’s like therapy in a book. The book guides you through 6 important steps with guided meditation and journaling. It’s a deep and rich look at boundaries, not just with others but with yourself, and the practical application to apply and practice in real life. Highly recommend.